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AIBU to think this is a little unfair/wrong

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Cutecat78 · 02/12/2015 18:57

I have accused a colleague of sexual harassment (some of you may remember my thread).

Did my interview and statement today and was asking about the process.

Apparently if it goes to disciplinary he can cross examine me - I feel a bit freaked out about this AIBU to think this is a bit much?

And would have further put me off reporting if I had known....

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Andrewofgg · 02/12/2015 21:52

It's also a fact that union officials are in difficulties if the alleged harasser asks for support - to which they are entitled as members. There have been cases where none has been willing to act - which is outrageous - and in that case the man can only act for himself.

PaulAnkaTheDog · 02/12/2015 21:54

Andrewofgg was that after a girl committed suicide afterward? I was only in primary school but I remember newspaper headlines about it I think.

hedgehogsdontbite · 02/12/2015 21:55

Thank you. I didn't know it'd changed. Good to know.

Original poster
Cutecat78 · 02/12/2015 22:44

Well I guess the whole thing is going to be unpleasant so I'm going to have to suck it up (no pun intended). Hmm

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Original poster
Cutecat78 · 03/12/2015 00:52

Does anyone have any tips? Other than trying to remain dignified and composed?

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Catsize · 03/12/2015 09:29

Andrewofgg, you're wrong I am afraid.
Section 34 Youth Justice and Criminal Evidence Act applies to any sexual offence, not just rape. See also Criminal Procedure Rule 23.
Not sure of the extent of the harrassment in this case, but this knowledge may be a useful tool in your armoury OP.

Catsize · 03/12/2015 09:30

Re:Criminal Proc Rules, make sure you're looking at the October 2015 rules.

laughingatweather · 03/12/2015 09:59

If you're in the NHS, he can't cross examine you. He can ask questions via his Union rep.

Andrewofgg · 03/12/2015 18:02

True enough, Catsize - I was only summarising; but I don't see how it helps the OP either way. These are not criminal proceedings.

laughingatweather What if the Union rep. declines to act, as some do, or says publicly that s/he is only acting because s/he has to? In that case how can he feel any confidence in the Union or the rep?

HermioneWeasley · 03/12/2015 18:09

It is unusual but not unheard of for disciplinary policies to allow for this.

Leelu6 · 03/12/2015 18:11

Actually, hiddenhome, I didn't know that. Hmm

Catsize · 05/12/2015 10:53

Andrew, I just thought it might lend some weight to the OP's objections.

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