Bit o background. Every year DS (10) is in his school carol concert in a church in our village. It is THE most christmassy thing ever and DD (18) and I adore it and end up in tears each year, especially when the "hand chimers" do their bit (a few kids selected each year to do so) - we absolutely love it, its 9 days or so before xmas and blah blah its our thing.
When ex h can he asks the school for an extra ticket but they are very strict on only 2 per child so if he cant get one he doesnt come as its mine and dd's thing etc.
Only this year, DS IS A HANDCHIMER!!!! DD and I are so excited and DS is mega proud. But I havent told ex h yet as I know he is entitled to the 2nd ticket. And then rather than sit with tears in my eyes with my dd Ill be sat with tears in my eyes alone, or worse next to him (we're not exactly pally).
Shall I a) let him have the ticket or b) try and secure an extra one before even mentioning that DS has his starring role? and if I cant get one??
I know what I should do... but I just hate the thought that dd will miss out when we've been doing this for years.
Dont flame me, I know I should be grateful his father would want to come etc but I am very very much the single parent and want to share this mega special night with my dd? I am very much the worry now and post on mumsnet when I cant actually contact the school type person ;)