to keep DS at home even though he'd *probably* be ok with calpol?

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5yo DS has the virus that's been making its way around his class, high fever, coughing, sore throat, chills and a headache.

Sent him in on Monday anyway, dosed up, and he came home completely wrecked and ready for bed by 5.30 - they'd forgotten to give him the paracetamol. They rang to apologise.

He had yesterday off and spent the day dozing on the sofa, refusing food and went to bed early. This morning he's still feverish but seems to be a little better, probably would be ok in school today with some calpol.

WIBU to keep him home anyway? Ditch the paracetamol, give him a blanket, some hot chocolate and Netflix and let him properly rest?

Reading that back to myself it seems obvious, but we've had The Letter and now I'm nervous about keeping him off school, and I keep questioning myself

He needs to be at home until he's completely well. Give the lad a duvet, a big drink and some cartoons. This is life, not boot camp.

Ive kept DD4 off this week for the same reasons. Fortunately its the first bug shes had since starting F2/Reception.

DD7, however, always catches everything going and Ive already had The Letter - I, however, dont give a shit, if my child is ill, she stays home. The threats are scary, but when theyre ill, its just tough shit.

Im by no means a soft touch, but as a child I was sent to school whether I was ill or not, resulting in SS being called because the school had to send me to a&e with a severely infected finger from a splinter, unaccompanied - I was 8 - as mother couldnt be contacted was probably drunk somewhere that resulted in IV antibiotics and a few days in hospital, narrowly avoiding surgery. Just one of many examples I could give.

definately keep him home. I can't stand all this nonsense that kids have to go in feeling like shit doped up on calpol.

one day off soares several days of feeling like shit and potentially more time.off later on.

the best thing to do to fight stuff off is sleep. lots of fluids, meds to keep temp down and relieve any pain.

going In ill renders them exhausted - which funnily enough reduced the immune system making illness last longer or be more severe.

and of course as the body is fighting something off its wide open to the next bug going round.

I can't see how they miss more in a day off than they do having a week struggling to function.

utter nonsense.

What is "THE LETTER"? I have a DC off school at the moment. Really hacking cough that's preventing any sleep so I'm not sending in a overtired child until they can cope with the school day.

Yes, I've been to work on the past with colds, coughs and stuff, but I'm an adult and capable of judging how ill I am.

BTW what is this 'letter'? I personally could not give a flying fig about letters about absence at this age. Admittedly ds hasn't had time off sick yet (luck rather than judgement) but if he had a temperature and was clearly struggling, I know my son well enough to know that he is not going to learn in that state and needs to stay at home. And no letter would make me behave differently.

Bold type fail

We are told to send kids in even if slightly I'll. they say they must (underlined and bolded) even if it means sitting out pe and playtime. The class has not has full attendance for over a month and the teachers are ill too. Madness.

How strange. Normally schools camplain about parents dumping ill children off and infecting more children who then need time off.

Does the school have a school nurse and sick bay on site every day? This is the only way I can see it would work.

In the dim and distant past when I went to school. If you were deemed too ill for school you got sent to Matron and put in the the sick bay.

There's a 'medical room'. DS got sent there once away from the other children when he'd vomited at lunch until I could get there. They don't send children there for a cough or a temperature.

They're known to send them to the book corner for a nap instead of calling the parents. DS came down with a temperature suddenly one day in reception, I came to pick him up and he was limp and floppy, sprawled on a beanbag fast asleep

They despise children having time off. I don't know if they're a more extreme school in this regard but from reading online it's becoming a common stance.

Fever will probably rise as day goes on.

I wouldn't send him

that's disgusting your poor ds.

I have no idea when this "bum on seat problem solved" mentality that absolutely everywhere seems to have adopted is bollocks.

there's zero consideration fir health, of the person and the other people they infect whilst there nor the amount of extra work it means. given that function - ability must be negligible and everyone else has to either pick up the slack or spend their time looking after someone who shouldn't he there as well as managing their other responsibilities.

came from, it's bollocks

excuse typos

I do think he should have stayed off in first place with that virus, sorry.