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To wonder why people live in London

243 replies

AtSea1979 · 01/12/2015 22:06

On the news just now, discussing the North/south divide. I live in the north. London seems a big scarey place where bad things happen often and I wonder why people want to live there.
But do people down south wonder why we live up north too with our poor health and education?

OP posts:
BlueJug · 01/12/2015 23:26

Feel safe as houses here. Never had a problem. Kids can be free as they can travel anywhere - even late at night.

Jibberjabberjooo · 01/12/2015 23:27

I used to live in Clapham, loved it. Waitrose was crazy!

OP you do realise that every city has it's problems? Have you been outside of where you live? Because I think you need to.

ouryve · 01/12/2015 23:28

Northumberland Street is hideous in December as well, Chaz. Pretty much shoulder to shoulder, with Fenwick's window music blasting out!

Silver street in Durham is quite civilised, though. Too fucking cold for all but the hardiest!

Debbriana1 · 01/12/2015 23:31

I love London. When I visit I feel exited. It just produces a good vibe for me.

Unreasonablebetty · 01/12/2015 23:32

Op I can kind of see where you are coming from, in a sense, because living in the sticks can be amazing because you get to learn different things, have a different lifestyle, and come to appreciate certain things.

I have lived out in the sticks, which is lovely, but it primarily spend much of my life in the city. If you love the sticks so much then you might not manage to see the beauty of London.

We tend to spend about 80% of our spare time in the city. As a family our visits tend to be much more structured, but if we are there on our own, we generally wander until we find something cool.

There is so much to find beautiful within the city. A few months ago (maybe 6 months ago now!) we went to westfield shopping centre and did some late night shopping, then drove into Central London, got boris bikes and spent a few hours cycling around just seeing the views. The views are absolutely breathtaking at night.

The history, is also amazing. We often go for evening walks around parts of the city, usually the ghost walks, or Jack the Ripper or haunted London... It's amazing because not only do you get to hear of history, and stories of London, you get to see things you wouldn't see otherwise. The favourite thing I ever saw was past an alleyway there was this tiny street that remains untouched visually from the outside since the days of gaslights- gaslights were still intact.

That and the fact that he architecture is so beautiful on some buildings, it's really breathtakingly beautiful- this does tend to bed a later night thing for us to look at, because generally Londoners don't like to be stuck behind tourists looking up at buildings and not where they are going.
Within 100 metres you might find a building with the most beautiful architecture that's been stood well over 100 years, then you'll see a new building that is such a breath of fresh air, and equally as amazing to look at.

You'll find the most wonderful buskers around the city. There's one that keeps in mind who's name is save mwaniki- I've never seen a busker where people actually sat in a crowd to listen to him sing. He was wonderful and can be found in Covent garden.

The pop up shops/boutiques/experiences- there was a magnum pop up experience a few months ago where you could make your own ice cream, there is a cereal cafe on brick lane, it's like stepping back into childhood, you can buy any cereal there for about £3 a bowl. They had a cloud made out of balloons and lights about a month ago in Covent garden, they have a ballpit exclusively for adults that people can use for an hour free. It's exclusively for adults.... It adds a bit of fun to a trip.

We also have the Tower of London. We have Buckingham palace, we have the London bridge, the London eye.

We have harrods, we have hamleys, we have bond street.

We have so many museums art galleries and amazing opportunities.

The only thing that I find quite poignant about the city is you can drive down a road and there can be multi million pound houses, by the time you've turned onto the next there's a council block of flats, and despite these people sharing a postcode the opportunities that people have are completely different.
London is a beautiful tapestry of life in many, many different forms, which fills me with awe every time I visit, and I truly feel alive whilst there, but it's bittersweet because I know that the city can allow wonderful opportunities for those who are better off, and as (by Londons standards) one of the poor, the same opportunities wouldn't be open to us. It's easy to forget that when you live slightly further out.

Don't be scared of London, it honestly isn't that scary, I've never had anything bad happen to me.

If you haven't been you must visit. You'll fall in love.

pinkdelight · 01/12/2015 23:34

sparechange pretty sure parking is a pound in Balham waitrose now. sad times.

Katarzyna79 · 01/12/2015 23:37

I think this thread is weird but maybe it comes from everything being so London centric I can understand why that ticks people off, because there is more to the uk than just the capital.

I guess people live there because they were born there or went there for work, I reckon they are the main reasons.

I used to like living near family they live in a deadbeat city its so depressing. Since family are not the same since mum died I really don't care to be here.

I've lived in Scotland visited north wales many times, and the cotwolds. Those are the sort of places I feel content open spaces. I don't mind the city if it has beautiful architecture and friendly people and easy access to open spaces. For now my heart is in Edinburgh lived there many years, short stop in midlands I am definitely returning there or somewhere more rural. I;ve come to realise I can't do without open green spaces, I don't like looking out the window and seeing a row of terraced houses no matter if they are beautiful Victorian ones, or neighbours overlooking my garden on all sides. I must be getting old lol I like the landscape, mountains, farm animals nature :)

The most depressing thing about city life is when it rains and its so dull even with the lights on, you look out expecting to see something better and in front within a few yards is another house, small as a box not a pretty construction all went so it looks dark and miserable too. This is the reason I left the midlands it gives me suicidal thoughts lol

JassyRadlett · 01/12/2015 23:41

"find the thought of going on a tube scarey let alone anything else"

It's a train. In a tunnel.

There are no secret entrances to Narnia or trapdoors into a time vortex. That I know of.

Seriously? London is massive, diverse, inclusive, massively friendly and helpful. I spent a lot of my childhood in a place more remote than most British people can get their head around, and sometimes I ache for the far horizon, but honestly, this place is all kinds of different awesome.

As long as I'm living in the UK, I don't think I'd countenance living anywhere else.

OP, you sound like you're sorely lacking in imagination.

catfordbetty · 01/12/2015 23:41

London contains SE6.

OP, I rest my case.

Indole · 01/12/2015 23:43

And also people live here because they like it. It is fun. Really, it is. I promise.

I like to look out of my window and see other houses with lights on when it's dark and rainy. It makes me feel comfortable and at home. It's my childhood, looking out of a window and seeing the warm yellow lights and being inside with the warm and a good book.

BewitchedBotheredandBewildered · 01/12/2015 23:51

Or maybe I should paraphrase; goady fuckery.

Just to be clear.

ouryve · 01/12/2015 23:56

The most depressing thing about city life is when it rains and its so dull even with the lights on

Plenty of that in the countryside. With added cold and horseshit.

MrsJuice · 01/12/2015 23:57

Would you imagine it is better, or worse, than living on the moon?
This is purely from an economic standpoint.

mmgirish · 01/12/2015 23:59

Because it's awesome. I lived there for a few years but teachers don't earn enough to live in London properly.

Trills · 01/12/2015 23:59

Well OP

It sounds as if your life up til now has been quite limited.

But now you are on Mumsnet.

You will hear opinions from people who have very different lives to you.

You won't agree with all of them.

Some of them will be silly or lying or trying to get you to buy something or exaggerating or narrow-minded or dim.

But you will HEAR so much more.

You will HEAR ABOUT so much more.

You will no longer exist in a world where merely the mention of "a city" conjures up fear - you will know it's a lot like a village only bigger.

JassyRadlett · 02/12/2015 00:06

Would you imagine it is better, or worse, than living on the moon?

This is purely from an economic standpoint

You'd need to ask that bloke from the John Lewis ad. You'd think he'd look happier, not having to live in London and everything.

NameChanger22 · 02/12/2015 00:16

I like London, but only a few days a year. I used to live there but now I prefer living an hour away by train. Anytime I feel like going to a museum, an art gallery or a different restaurant I can just hop on a train and I'm soon there. Most of the time I prefer to be away from the masses.

London isn't that scarey right now. I think it might get a bit more scarey when we start bombing Syria.

novemberchild · 02/12/2015 03:52

I live in London because of DH's career. I'm still unsure about it, but one thing I do love is all the easily available facilities, from mental health and counselling, to children's groups.

I'm expecting a baby next summer and I'm not sure how I will feel about raising them in London, but I think there will at least be a lot to do.

Schubertlemons · 02/12/2015 05:00

I am always bemused on these threads at the assumption that all Londoners embrace diversity and other races, cultures etc. This just isn't true. My experience of some of DH's relations, friends and black cab drivers (generally a good barometer) is that they are at least as racist as any other set of people - although I think it is probably an age related thing rather than where you live (so now I am un PC for making ageist comments).

I love London btw!

ThenLaterWhenItGotDark · 02/12/2015 06:12

I'm a northerner (waggles flat cap and whippet to prove it)

When I took a coach of excited foreign teenagers to London last summer, and we drove in over one of the bridges from the south, and you saw Westminster in all its Westminstery-ness, I almost fucking cried. It is beautiful. We spent a couple of days there, as tourists, obviously...and you know what? It works does that there London, it functions well. The people are lovely, and patient with excited 14 yr old Italians who can't sort their money out, friendly and helpful. The Tube is chaos, but it works. Try getting the underground in Rome, or Milan and then London.

I agree with pps, it has an incredible vibe.

Would I want to live there? No, probably not. But I'm a "quite like to live in a cave on my own with no human contact" kind of gal.

But it did make me think I want to visit it more often.

Tigresswoods · 02/12/2015 06:38

I grew up over 100 miles from London but both parents were from there originally so we visited often.

I left home to go to uni in London & when I finished DH (as he is now) & I moved just outside.

DH still works there. I can not see a time when I'm more than a short train ride from London. I love it, it's the best city in the world!

Jollyjogger · 02/12/2015 06:50

I can see all the positives of London. Love the free galleries, sightseeing and wider range of food. Really enjoy visiting for a week but would struggle to stay any longer because Id miss cycling through ever changing stunning hills/woodlands/sunsets, the feeling of not feeling hemmed/crowded, the clean air (no black snot), the lower crime rate, the community (funnily enough lots of ex Londoners, alternative and artie types), the house prices, the wild up bringing my children have (the boys spend half the summer usually building damns in streams), the mudx

x2boys · 02/12/2015 07:00

ok i get that people love london and dont want to move but the north is not full of uneducated chavs we have jobs ,homes a life and manchester isnt bad either and we dont have to pay extortionate pricestp live in a shoebox live and let live every time this is mentioned on here it descends into london is amazing the north is crap.

YohY · 02/12/2015 07:03

Love London miss it really the only problem with London is house prices and cost of living
If not for that it would be great but then that's why those things are so expensive
London is s world capital and a lot of people would love to live there
Don't knock till you've tried

YohY · 02/12/2015 07:09

As soon as I can I will move back to London or its outskirts.
Just scared at the stupid price I will pay for property... Oh well it actually depends on where the jobs are