to just be done with it and spend all my savings divorcing exH?

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ExH and I split over 2 years ago.

Since then he has acted pretty badly and left me with no choice but to wait until the 2 years had passed so I could divorce him.

The 2 years is now up but I have asked him several times to pay half the cost for the divorce and, despite agreeing, has not been forthcoming with any money.

I am a full time student at the moment and am only working part time, as such I'm in a difficult position financially and cannot really afford to spend £400 (or whatever it is) on the divorce papers. That should be the sum of the costs as we have no assests/child issues to dispute.

But I'm getting to the point now where I am really fed up of waiting for him to cough up the money. I feel like it will never happen if I'm waiting for him and I really don't want to be married to him anymore. If I had a million in the bank I would have divorced him yesterday!

I have about £500 left in savings (student loan) so I could just about cover it but it would not leave me much in the way of a safety net and my earnings only just cover my outgoings so not much opportunity to save up.

Wibu to just spend all my savings getting rid of this useless man who has blighted my life but potentially leave myself broke or should I be more sensible and wait until I have a better safety net or heaven forbid he actually keeps his word and give me half the cost

hmctsformfinder.justice.gov.uk/HMCTS/GetLeaflet.do?court_leaflets_id=2833

Thank you was, that should really help things!

To financial protect yourself you need a divorce and a financial consent order. Without the financial consent order he could apply for financial split years down the track when you are earning money. This could also be how you get half the divorce paid.

Don't know if this will be of any help

www.wikivorce.com/divorce/

When I looked into the clean break/financial order thing it seemed that you need to go to a solicitor to get it all sorted, which I can't afford to do although I am very keen not to let exH have any of my future earnings

If I get help with the fees can I get help with a financial order too, does anyone know?

Thanks for the link everything :)

Frankly, if you don't have assets to so,it, I would sacrifice the savings and have it sorted as soon as possible. Because it is not only the assets that you split but the debt (yes, you can get a judge to order him to cover any debt he acquired after the split, but it may cost you far more than £500 in solicitor fees to get that sorted).