Digging my heels in AIBU?

[angelsnapper]

This may sound like a small problem but it causing quite a lot of tension, conflict and unhappiness in ou r household.
My DH has over the last year bought, scrapped and sold 4 motorbikes for our sons. We are by no means anywhere near well off and this has wasted possibly £1000s. I've been against it from the beginning due to cost, not having a motorbike track beside us and no transport/trailer to transport them. Also safety for the boys as he isn't being careful enough. After the last motorbike was stolen and wrecked I thought we had agreed no more. Back to another big argument last night as he wants to buy another.
He earns more than I do but still low wage, he is angry as its his money he wants to spend to spend. I'm past caring what he spends it on now but not more bikes for reasons above. AIBU?

If you are, between you, thousands of pounds in debt, it really isn't "his" money to spend: it's his creditors'. Paying them off should be the priority.

Why is it his money ? If you're married them everything's shared, all money is family money. Why isn't he more concerned with paying off debts? He sounds pretty irresponsible.

If he's taking them to public places to ride he will be in major trouble if he gets caught - and even more so if they are in an accident where either they or someone else gets injured. He really needs to grow up fast.

No, not "his" money or "he bears the brunt of the bills" - you work and look after the kids and house, so you share the responsibility of providing for the family you BOTH had together. If you worked full-time (so you "shared the brunt of the bills" together), someone would need to pick up doing the rest of it, with the associated cost e.g. childcare for 7 year old before/after school & holidays.

If the family is in debt to the tune of 000s, then the family cannot afford new motorbikes. End of. Clear the debt, then look at it again. If his bike that he commutes on got stolen next, you'd still have a loan to pay off and need to buy another one. The DC don't NEED bikes at the moment.

And that's disregarding all the safety and breaking the law aspects.

If you manage without a car, great. Has it ever been an option? A car is useful in all weathers and carries more than a motorbike can.

If a member of the public reports DH for anti-social behaviour* the police might follow up with a visit and issue him with a S59 which transfers with the vehicle so selling it on, the new owner won't be happy.

A fine and seeing the machine confiscated would be a total waste.
Are these 'bikes registered and taxed?
Using a motorbike on your own land (garden/drive) is not a problem.
Using it on private land without permission is an offence.

*Think that covers riding in a reckless, inconsiderate manner on common land, footpath, bridleway: riding in a manner likely to cause alarm, distress or annoyance.

Thank you so much for your replies. We don't have any kid motorbikes at the moment and after the last one I put my foot down and said I don't agree and we are not having anymore. The issue keeps raising its ugly head, once again yesterday. I'm made to feel unreasonable and I shouldn't tell him what he can spend money on. I have to keep fighting about it but I'm determined to stick to what I've said. It's just upsetting and tiring going over it again and again.
We have gone without for this hobby in the past and I'm so worried about the safety. Thank you for the for links I will show him but he will not take notice I think.