First off bit of a rant.. I was asked by a friend if I wanted a baby shower.. now my first son is 9 and baby showers didn't exist over here so I've never had one. I went to one a couple years ago and it was cringe.. it was awkward as I felt I was at someone else's family party, it was all women and we played these awful cringey games. I've never been to another one as my sister in law didn't want one as she like me didn't get it really lol! So my friend asked if I wanted one.. I said yes and no I'd like to see my friends and have some sort of gathering as it's always nice to have friends arrange something for you I've never had it done before neve rhad a surprise party nothing so part of me wanted a little fuss not gonna lie but I said to her I don't really get the whole baby shower thing and I don't feel fully comfortable. So she asked what I would like and said it's your baby shower you tell me, I said either maybe we all go out for lunch or dinner or maybe just a gathering of friends put on some sort of buffet and just kinda have a get together? I suffer with anxiety so games and being center of attention is something I do in small doses and i'm not a fan of baby shower games at all. She ok. Anyway months go by and i'm a couple weeks from being due and thinking when's this baby shower? Another friend of mine messaged my mum asking what's going on and was anything planned? My mum had no clue so I spoke to the friend n said apprently this other person was doing something.. but everytime I mentioned them they kinda avoided the subject so I had a feeling this person decided not to do it and didn't tell anyone and now my group of friends where panicking trying to sort something out. So I said tbh shall we do what we did with my son and just have a little get together/party after the baby's born that way you can all see him all in one go and I can have cheeky glass of wine and tbh it makes more sense to me than a baby shower as surely you wanna see the baby. So this friend said sure thing we will do that instead. Fast forward a week and mention this to another friend saying I'm guessing this person couldn't bothered anymore how lovely! And the friend told me that this person didn't like my ideas or how I wanted a baby shower... this person wanted to do games n stuff and I said no and decided not to bother organising anything cos it wasn't what they wanted!?! But evidently didn't tell anyone till it was too late. AIBU to be annoyed?? I haven't said anything to this person as I feel my group where trying to cover up their mistake so as not to cause an argument and tbh I don't get baby showers.. I prefer the idea of having a little party afterwards kinda thing I get fuss but the baby gets most fuss so my anxiety doesn't play up etc so I'm happy with the outcome but im really annoyed and frankly quite hurt. Baby showers seem to be the thing now and altho I don't get it lol I feel like this person has decided I can't have one cos I didn't want it their way?? Xxxx p.s what are ppls view on baby showers anyway?? My mum thinks their stupid lol they seem like something you do on your last day of work not with family n friends x