To think that if you ask someone for a lift, you shouldn't dictate the time you pick them?

[GlitteryRollers]

Had a text earlier from DB asking, and I quote "drop me in town at 7.50pm?"

Putting aside the the slightly rude tone of it, I wouldn't mind but I want to watch Strictly which doesn't finish till 8.05. I said I would pick him after Strictly had finished at about 8.15. I get a message back, "but I want to go at 7.50". Me: "I want to watch Strictly I will pick you up after its finished".
I then get another huffy text back "oh don't bother I'll just walk in the rain".

Unfortunately DB is used to DM dropping everything to ferry him around at night but she's away this weekend so can't and so obviously now he's asking me.

AIBU to have said this? I'm wondering if I'm being a bit tight and I don't mind doing this once in a blue moon, but I don't think its right to expect someone to change plans just like that?

Let him get wet.

Stop babying him.

It will do him good to be responsible for himself.

Sorry, he's 30. Lol! Not a kid obviously! But then my DM still does all his washing and shopping for him, so you get the idea what he's like lol.

More fool your DM.

OP, I think offering to pick him up after Strictly was a more than generous offer, given you don't even live at home with him. He'd have got a firm No at the first text, especially as you've mentioned the available public transport.

Does he work 50+ hour weeks?

Sounds like a cock lodger in the making

Glittery, he's 30? So does he live with you and can do you favours in exchange? It's generous for you to offer at all - he could wait in the pub or something.

I thought he was 16 and had the house to himself from your description. Man child!

THIRTY

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What a passive aggressive, manipulative child.

He's got a nice, long life of being single stretching out ahead of him, doesn't he?!

Hang on..... your mother does his washing and shopping?

Oh, please. YANBU

OMG. I've just come back to this thread to see that he's 30. I was imagining someone in their early teens.

30! He clearly has a lot of growing up to do. Why can't he catch the bus? (Or do his own washing?)

YANBU. Enjoy your TV programme.

Your mother isn't helping him at all. If she ferries him around all Tyne time then more fool her. OP why would you even consider giving him a lift especially as he wouldn't do it for you?

Don't know h I w Tyne got in there

I hope you aren't gettingh ready to give him a lift OP!!
Please confirm that you are sat in your pyjamas on the sofa under a blanket and on your third glass of wine...

30 and he can't wash his own clothes or get himself anywhere? Damn I'd hate to be his partner! You do right. Settle I for the night, he won't die if he has to catch a bus.

My db is like this, he will text my mum & me for a lift if his dad can't do it.
He is only 18 though and can't drive yet. He's also much more polite about it, and it's usually to get to football training so a specific time/day each week.

Cheeky bastard! Does he work?

I'd have replied to first text with 'fuck off!' DM needs to get a clue too!

The only way to deal with a 30 YO man child is to have replied 'Hahaha... No'

Honestly, why were you even going to give him a lift at all?

oh good grief

if he's 30, is he doing that thing where he lives in his own house and still brings washing home? Terrifying. If that's what he's doing then you and your mum should stop enabling him at all - he's an adult, he should live like one.

sorry, I should have said "brings washing to his mum's house".

What a loser. 30 and still expecting his Mum to do stuff for him. I'm a bloke, the last time my Mum did my washing was when I was 18.

Has he got his own house?