To want the bedroom to myself

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Lying here trying to have a quiet cup of tea and a gentle mumsnet after a bit of a night last night. Bloody husband who wasn't out last night and went to bed early is going very noisy stretching exercises with lots of huffing.

I think attention seeking and unnecessarily making a point. At least he's got a dressing gown on, I suppose. Aibu to want him to bigger off?

Tell him to go and jog around the block

With his dressing gown on of course.

A gentle mumsnet

He's now sorting out his drawers. I don't care whether he keeps the purple jumper or not, honestly, I don't care...

Pretend to be asleep.

I'm going to be forced to get up aren't I. I'm sure I'm radiating disinterest but it's not being picked up. Wilfully not being picked up.

'hi husband, can you stop being so passive aggressive and if you want to do some chores, get yoursel downstairs and start with the kitchen. Ta'.

I have to say out late or not, my OH would never do this to me. He once had a rant at me on holiday that I wasn't up early enough and I pointed out that there was no rush, and it was my holiday too. Never did it again.

He's quite sweet really, just not good at taking a hint.

Stop hinting, ask him to make you a sarnie. When he asks what you want on it, tell him you want something you don't have nd he'll have to nip to the shop. But the only place they sell it is Aldi on the other side of town.
Peace for an hour and a sarnie, seems win win to me.

One of the nicest things after being married for 20 years to a snorer is waking up alone and yet so many men who want to date say that's exactly what they don't want - they want to wake up with a woman next to them. I don't understand it. Being alone in the bed room, your own bed, shutting the door is just absolutely marvellous. I don't think I'd move a man back in here ever.

Ah Freudian slip there.... I meant

One of the nicest things after being married for 20 years to a snorer and then getting divorced....

We have separate bedrooms, I highly recommend it.

The passive aggressive thing, always makes my blood boil. I recently got it for going to a funeral & went for a drink afterwards........like ? are you serious, you didn't die.......

I would have said,
"Darling, when you have ceased looking for my attention, behaving like a petulant child you could go & make me a cup of tea."

Are you sure AIBU is the right place for a gentle Mumsnet?

Granted aibu isn't the place for a gentle mumsnet!

I've mentioned the passive aggressive, and he's acknowledged and pointed out it's usually the other way round, fair point.

He's gone, having made me a cup of tea. I'm settling back down and its nice and quiet. Aah.

V normal relationship!