not getting ds an xbox one for Xmas

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He 14. Both dc recently got new laptops for their birthday on the understanding they wouldn't be getting another large price tag Xmas present.

Because of Black Friday he's been pestering again. He has a perfectly good xbox 360. I know that some of the new games and xbox live will only be supported by xbox one, so it's not an unreasonable request.

We can afford it, but I want him to save his Xmas money and look to be buying one next summer for his birthday, when we will put a fair chunk in ourselves. I don't like him thinking he can have everything on a plate.

Am I being a big meanie?

My DS has just had his 13th birthday and we got him a convertible tablet/laptop (and a replacement mobile phone when he smashed the screen of his old one for the third time) so there will definitely be no Xbox for Christmas. He also has a Nintendo 3DS and we have Sky Sports so he spends quite enough time looking at screens.

He still has his Hudl one which he can use on journeys/holidays and a Sony Walkman MP3 player too. Personally I think that's enough technology!

Yes I could afford it but I'd rather spend the money on holidays which DS also enjoys (for the moment, that could change at his age).

To those saying if you can afford it you should buy it - I don't think it's as straightforward as that. New technology is coming out all the time. You could end up buying some new gadget every few months, thus rendering the previously adored one (which you no doubt bought a ton of associated paraphernalia for) useless and unwanted. Just because you can afford something, does that mean you should buy kids everything they ask for, as long as your budget allows it?

YWNBU, you said that there would be no big item this Xmas because of their laptops. Totally fair.

Ds1 said he would like a wii u for Christmas then changed his mind and wanted an Xbox one
We told him he needed to decide which he was asking Santa for and stick to it

He said def Xbox so that's what he's getting, his bday is a few days after Xmas and we got the wii u for that

He told us yest he's changed his mind and now wants a ps4 !!!!!

I think it's a very good idea to make DS wait in the circumstances. Sounds like it could be a positive thing. Just because it's Christmas doesn't mean DCs should get everything!

You agreed the laptops instead of big presents. Stick to that, especially if he's "pestering". He needs to learn that the bank of mum and dad is not always open.

OPs DS is 14. There are a limited amount of Christmases where he actually wants a gift rather than cash or soon he may be deemed an adult and gets an adult type gift.

If my child was being brattish and demanding, regradless of whether I could afford it it would be a No, but in other circumstances I don't see an issue if you have the money. There is plenty of time away from Christmas and Birthdays for life lessons.

I also appreciate that people do things differently, mine get spoiled at birthday and christmas time and besides a bit of pocket money, they don't get a lot of things bought during the year. I also don't count holidays and family days out as their gifts, those are things we do as a family and I get possibly more pleasure from them than they do. However I guess if you were paying for a trip just for them that they really wanted to go on then that is a gift for them.

YANBU my youngest (11) would like one too but he's getting a replacement laptop, new phone and tablet so maybe for his birthday but not Xmas.

I have caved in and bought Xbox as joint present for DS 1 and 2. However, the deal is that I sell old PlayStation, all games, DS, kindle to part fund it, and the "Christmas money" from granddad is also funding it. No way am I just spending £280. And I refuse to buy violent games, so if ds1 wants cod etc he'll have to buy them himself. I do think kids need to know that £280 is a lot of money, regardless of your income, and not just expect it.

Well, I caved in and bought DS2 (also 14) a PS4 for his last birthday after stating categorically that he wouldn't be getting one due to all of the other tech he already had, so I'm probably not the right person to ask for advice .

His laptop has recently broken beyond repair (it was my old one in the first place), so he will be having a new laptop as his main Christmas present. I am happy with that though as he is in Year 10 & needs to be able to use a computer for school work and I don't like sharing mine.

Hell yes minx it is a lot of money I can't get over how much kit my son's friends have (9/10). X box ones, I pads I pod touch, DSI. ...
I can't afford a new bloody laptop, why does a 10 year old get one!.
I can't comprehend spending 400 quid on a child's Xmas presents. It does also make me wonder if a 10 year old has basically everything, what do you get them when they are 14 or whatever? What is there to aspire to if it all just gets given so easily?
But then I guess the games companies will just keep upgrading and making older consoles obsolete. Clever of them.
Yanbu OP.

YANBU you told him no, after the laptops. Re-evaluate next year