To think you don't reprimand a 7 year old for not giving directions home?

[Dancergirl]

Dd3 is 7.5 and goes to the same brownies as a girl at her school who she doesn't get on that well with. It's nothing terrible, just a case of she did this, she said that etc. Probably six of one and half a dozen of another tbh.

Brownies had a trip recently at a venue which was a bit of a way from home. I had other running around with my other two dds that day so the mother of this girl very kindly offered to bring my dd home from the trip (she lives quite near me). I didn't think it would be a problem for dd and this girl to put up with each other for the half hour journey home.

Anyway, I was waiting for them to return, the doorbell rang and dd ran in in floods of tears. The mum looked/sounded very stressed, said the journey was terrible, she couldn't find our house and had asked dd for directions. Dd either didn't know (from where they were at the time) or sent her the wrong way or something. The mum had told dd off and asked her why she didn't say the right way to go. It sounded like it had got very heated and the daughter had also got involved in the conversation somehow. She also said dd had shouted her dd down when she tried to say something.

I'm always the first to admit if my child has done something wrong or been naughty and from the way this mum told me the story it sounded like dd was in the wrong so I said I would talk to her and apologise if needed. Dd was very upset, her point of view was that she wasn't sure of the way home and had spent the entire journey in this car feeling unliked/despised by both the mum and daughter. She was crying and probably let her emotions get the better of her.

The mum said some not very complimentary things about dd, I think she thinks dd is very strong willed and her dd is sweet and kind and has never had any issues with girls in her class before.

I know the journey must have been stressful but to take it out on a 7 year old? I would always treat a guest child (even if just in the car) kindly and make them feel comfortable. And I wouldn't rely on a child to give accurate directions!

Even if she knew, it gets dark early and things look very different in the dark.

It just really bugs me that she has such a low opinion of my dd whilst hers can do no wrong

Now there is your real issue OP.

From your OP: I didn't think it would be a problem for dd and this girl to put up with each other for the half hour journey home.

I think you are feeling overly-guilty about making a decision that didn't work well for anyone concerned. These things happen. Hind-sight gives us 20/20 vision.

Don't ask this Mum to do another favour for you. Don't expect the DDs to get on for even half an hour. The Mum didn't handle it well - but she was trying to help you out when you were unavailable.

Are you able to accept that mistakes were made on all sides and learn from the experience?

YANBU. I despise the my poppet can do wrong but I think all other kids are little shits, brigade.
This women is a big bully, and it looks like her dd will go the same way. She's already encouraged bullying tendencies by allowing her DD to join and gang up.

Having 7 year old in tears. When my DD was little and I'd havd her friend's around. I'd treat them like precious little snow flakes. I don't get how snyone, a mother especially can speak to a child like that. You trusted her with your most precious treasure. Your baby.
I'd have to say something op. There's times you have to speak your mind and this is definately it. I'm not saying go around there ranting and raving. But she assertively needs telling that you cant treat someone else's child like that. Especially over a non event.

Would she have screamed like that an another adult who didn't know the directions!
Oh and I'm 40 and just about know my freeeekin left from my right, so HTF that daft idifuckinot to expect a 7 year old bsby to have impeccable navigation skills, well I'm beyond non plussed.

She sounds very odd. It's not as though it's difficult to look up directions in advance or pull over and phone for help.

As a seven-year-old sat in the back of a car I'd have struggled to see enough to navigate successfully, even with a booster seat.

That's awful for your DD...was it also late afternoon or dark as that wouldn't have helped either.