Am I being precious?

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Tomorrow is my last day at a job I really hate. Monday I start a new job. Therefore, I told DH a few weeks back that i would like us to share a bottle of wine tomorrow night to celebrate - he agreed. So I bought abnice bottle of red and have mentioned it a few times since. I've been really looking forward to it.

Tonight I get home from work and suggest we could get a movie to watch tomorrow night and he tells me it would have to be after football (on sky sports). I ask what time that is on and he says 7.45 so he will be sat at the computer from 7.30 until at least 9.30 tomorrow night. I remind him that we were meant to celebrating with the wine and he was really blaza about it, shrugged his shoulders and said "yeah, but football is on".
He's not even a big follower of football and we don't even have sky sports which is why he needs to be sat at the computer whilst he streams it off some foreign tv channel. So now my night of celebrating has turned into sitting on my own until 9.30 - 10pm by which time I'll too tired and past it to give a shit.
Is this a bit thoughtless of him or am I being precious? I was really looking forward to tomorrow night :-( and we can't postpone it until Saturday as "boxing is on"

As a one off, I'd be hurt but get over it, celebrate with a friend and leave him to his computer.

As a developing trend, I'd be concerned about why he felt so insecure that he had to go out of his way to spoil things he knows I'm looking forward to. I would keep a diary and when things were OK, sit down and talk to him about his behaviour patterns. As in how unacceptable it is - with an underlying current of "sort yourself out or ship yourself off". Can't be doing with men who think supportiveness only goes one way in a relationship.

He sounds not just insensitive, but actively disruptive and combative. Congratulations on the job. I agree, go out with friends and celebrate to your heart's content, and then think about why you're with someone who seems not to like you very much.

not precious at all. Your DH is being very selfish and inconsiderate in this situation.

Wait until he goes to the loo, then just as you hear him starting, cheer as if there has been a goal. Then you can watch or listen to the frantic scrabbling of trying to finish quickly enough to get back for the replay.

In all honesty I think you're being a bit precious but it sounds like there are other problems, which presumably throw a different slant on it.

The bit about trying to hide the fact you are looking forward to something is worrying. If you think he is actively trying to spoil things for you why are you with him?

If he's that insensitive then I wouldn't have planned it in the first place and instead planned to go out with mates. You know what he's like though so surely you knew he would probably pull a stunt like this. Why put yourself in that position in the first place?
The next thing to do would be to have it out with him and try and get to the bottom of why he does it. If that didn't work then he would be outta there!

Go out and have a good time. Don't tell him you are going out until he sits down at the computer.

Honestly, if you are starting to think he is deliberately spoiling anything that is fun for you, you probably have to set up some tests so you can be sure.

People who behave like twats usually behave like twats in many ways.

Try this quiz: Signs of EA

Go out for food and drink with several lairy friends (with his wallet!) Then head back to yours with them! Having 'accidentally' disabled the WiFi before hand!

Twat!

Interesting quiz, sbexh scores 27

Blaza?? Do you mean blasé??

Drink the wine and watch what you want.

You've changed your job so
Partners can also be changed.

Oh dear OP, I used to have this with ex also. Would look forward (while also being afraid it would go tits up) to things and there would be always a last minute hitch - late/ forgot/ have to work/ not bothered/disappear - so I'd either be left disappointed or else pathetically grateful when it worked out in the end. It's a passive aggressive ploy and feeds on how much you are looking forward to something. Second the suggestions to do with a friend instead - a breezy "oh, that's a shame, never mind, I'll give so and so a call" and try to enjoy that instead (and gradually disentangle yourself).

............. and you are with him why?
from what you've said here its very obvious he does not love you or respect you.
i would dump his ass.

yanbu he sounds thoughtless. Have you actually told him how you feel though?

Is this what you usually do, buy a bottle of red wine (when you want to celebrate something) and he's not interested and watches the TV because it sounds awfully familiar?