Coat gone 'missing' from pre school

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My daughters coat has mysteriously dissappeared from her nursery. The nursery say a parent or someone by have taken it home by accident. I'm totally WTF! I've written her name in it so fingers crossed it come back. Anyone else have any experience of this. I'm livid.

Yes get very used it.

After being at senior school for one and a half days my d's had lost:
His leather shoes
One goalie glove
His PE top ( new and expensive because of the school logo)
One pair of brand new trousers
One tie.

He did find his shoes and the school gave him a new PE top, but none of the others have ever materialised.

You can buy cheap coats from the charity shop or ebay though. Scarves, hats, gloves etc. In my school we have an old uniform sale - parents can drop in old uniform in good condition, others can buy it...if your uniform sells you get the money. If not, you've the uniform back.

As an Irish teacher I am always delighted children don't get changed for PE here - seems a waste of time and I can just imagine the complaints when children lose things!

First week of school one of mine came home with someone else's pissy pants.

The mum is one who snubs me and is quite rude, hindsight I wished I'd not washed them and let them fester over the weekend.

It happens, I'm sure the coat will be returned

Dc1 came out of school with no coat on a day it had snowed and we have a 25 min walk home. I was upset very hormonal pregnant with dc3 at the time and school let me borrow a coat from lost property. Next morning I saw another girl in her class with her coat and said to girl's mum who laughed it off. She wouldn't let dc1 have her coat and swap with the lost property one as her daughter would get cold in the 5 mins before school I did get very a little cross at this and smilingly insisted. When her daughter took the coat off she pulled off her cardigan at the same time which also had another girls name label in it. Small victory for a crazy hormonal preggers me

You do have to wonder at some people's cheek though. This wasn't a school one but my friend once had a little boy round to play with her DS who had an accident and needed to borrow a pair of trousers to go home in. They were nursery age at the time. She eventually got the trousers back, now miles too small, three years later, with her DS's name tag still sewn in and the other boy's name written on the label, and then crossed out with his younger brother's name underneath, and it was obvious from the hem that they had been shortened and then lengthened again, so the other mum had certainly got her money's worth out of them before handing them back!

We have a beanie hat which was left after a kid's party at our house. Contacted all the families, it belongs to nobody. We can't use it because I fear we will be accused of stealing. We can't give it to charity because it clearly was somebody's.

It gives me the evil look each time I open the wardrobe it lives in. Wondered about putting in a random name and leaving it at school on a random peg, someone is bound to steal it.

Stitched a hi vis vest to dds coat in nursery. DD couldn't find her coat at home time so teacher gave her the scabby, ripped too small coat to wear home and suggested we look for it the next day. Found it hanging off a small girl ( DD is huge). Asked the parent for it back, they got very abusive and staff had to intervene. The parent had badly scribbled out DDS name and written their daughters in it. The hi vis vest was in the pocket. Begrudgingly it was handed over with threats of ' a smacking' and the parent wandered off effing and blinding about having to remove the vest that some fucker had sewn onto their child's coat!

We haven't done too badly over the years.

Dd1
Lost lovely Lakeland water bottle that cost £7 on day one of reception
Cardigan hung on fence in September eventually turned up in July well worn
Left torch on residential trip
Lost bus pass which we got back
Lost full pencil case first week of secondary
Lost flash drive

Dd2
Nothing so far

My son is now in Year 11 and has lost countless items over the years, despite them having sewn in name tags AND his name written elsewhere inside in laundry pen.

In Year 2 he took off his school sweatshirt as it was warm in the class. It was the start of term and he'd only worn the sweatshirt twice. The teacher told him to put it on his peg outside the classroom. We never saw it again...but whoever took it left a manky washed out one in it's place. Of course that one wasn't named so there was no way of knowing who it belonged to. I was furious.

PE kit was the thing in secondary school, and we've never had any of it back and the PE dept haven't wanted to know when I've asked if they'd email all parents of kids in his group and ask them to check what's been brought home. I'm glad he doesn't have to do PE now!

We've had this happen so many times with 5DC.

One of our children had a very distinctive coat,it went missing only 2 days old.I spoke to the school straight away,we'd had a good look for it.

School said don't worry I know what the coat looks like and who'll have it,it was a sodding parent had nicked it not another child.They have form for it we were told,they must have been the most stupid person going as DH often turned up at the school in his Police Uniform.

What moron steals something from a child let alone a child of someone who's in the Police.

That was they're last chance we were told and they were banned from entering the school grounds after that,so they're family had to do the school pick ups and drop offs and attend any meetings ect.

Secondary state school uniforms definitely NOT cheap here. £400 for DD1, and around £250 - £300 for each of her two younger sisters, who both went to a different school to DD1. PE kits included there but came to around £100 each. It was a full one of those that DD1 dumped on the bus.

Available from one supplier only, embroidered with school logo etc. No choice, high prices and captive market.

Last week DS1 who is 8 lost his new Joules coat £85..... Sent him in last years Joules coat £85.... That went missing too!!! On the coldest day of the year my son went to school without a coat. I told them him must be kept in at break times and funnily enough after 3 days of him being in... Both coats turned up!!!!
Amazing!!!
This will happen constantly .... I can't buy my kids a cheap coat .... I like hand me downs !!!

Wait until your child comes home wearing one expensive shoe, purchased two days before, sized 2.5H - and one rather older shoe, sized 13.5E! And NO ONE in the class will admit that their child has arrived home wearing one shoe that is clearly 3 sizes too big for them! £42 those shoes cost me, due to DS having my funny shaped feet.

We've had so many lost jumpers I've lost count - I just go look in the lost property box now and any jumper without a name in is fair game (The Head told me to just take them). DS lost his trousers after PE, has lost entire PE kit at least twice, and lost a coat that had his name sewn inside and embroidered on the outside too. I despair!

My smack head moment was when Ds1 had a brand new pair of PE socks. (£8 from the school supplier.) He took them out of his bag in the corner of the changing room and when he turned round they had gone.

Then he got detention five minutes later because he didn't have the right socks.

Yep it happens, most of the time you get them back sometimes not. Once my son come home from school in shoes 3 sizes to small haven't a clue how he got them on his feet. Next morning all parents were exchanging shoes outside class. Kids thought it would be a good idea to try each other's shoes on!

Livid?! Oh dear, you have many years of this to come!

I have 2 in school now - DD is 8 and DS is 4. We have had jumpers, coats, PE kit and even trainers go missing. In fact one of DD's PE tops and two jumpers have never resurfaced. DS is fairing a little better, although his snack money wallet went missing once and only returned when it was empty

DD once came home with a skirt on after PE. That morning she'd gone in wearing trousers

These things happen.

I would be fuming op.
Dd starts nursery next term. I own an embroidery machine, absolutely everything she owns is being embroidered on the outside with her name.
I hate losing stuff.

I have a deranged parent this year who seems to think I am personally stealing her son's age 4-5 jumpers, shoes and P.E. kit..

Unfortunately as a reception teacher this was a regular occurrence. I am also apparently expected to keep track of which identical but unnamed sweatshirt/skirt/trousers belongs to every child. I agree with previous advice to buy a cheap coat for school.

OP it doesn't improve - DS is in 6th form. Last weekend there were 3 dirty rugby socks in his kit - all named (3 different names) - but none of them belonged to him. I have given up worrying so just washed them and put them back in his kit bag.

IJust - embroidering on the outside is a really good idea. DD had a school cardigan with her name embroidered on the outside. Teacher - Sue, have you got Jane's cardigan? Sue - no. DD is standing there with a cardigan with Sue's name inside and Sue is sitting there with a cardigan which says Jane on the front . (names changed)

It won't unfortunately help with a coat (or shoes, or socks, or wellies, or random other stuff), which will be taken home and never appear at school again.

Putting names outside of clothing a is a really bad idea. Police recommend you don't as strangers can easily know their name and pretend they know them.

If your three year old was in park and someone said ' hey Sue, I'm your mummies friend, she said you can come and get ice cream', would they go? Mine probably would at nursery age

Certainly as teenagers mine would have been mortified to have their names embroidered on the outside of their stuff.

DD1 was forced to accept it for a couple of years with her PE kit polo shirt at secondary school because it was a school policy, but believe me, kit still ended up in the wrong bags on a regular basis.

You don't have to do the full name. Initials will do the job fine.

I speak as one who has Sharpied DD's initials onto the outside of every pair of trainers since she started secondary school and acquired mush for brains.

DS1 is notorious for this. During the recent cold snap I sent him to school with his hat and gloves. Told him to put his hat in his coat pocket when not wearing it, and be careful his gloves didn't fall out when he pulled the hat out.

First day comes home: no hat and only one glove.

Still haven't found either.

you can see why American companies such as lands end offer and embroidery service. Just 2 or 3 initials on the outside make it immediately identifiable.