My family has recently got back in contact with an estranged family member, this family member is now also legal guardian for my half sister who I have met once before.
The rest of my family (think brothers, sisters, nieces, nephews) want to meet up with half sister and family member over Christmas (so would I). We live in London step sister and her guardian live about 150 miles away but want to visit London to see the sights, Christmas lights etc.
Now here is the deal breaker for me, I have a 4 and 2 year old and the 2 year old hates being in her buggy and traveling (to the point that she's reduced me to tears with her screaming and the HV is now involved to help us get through her behaviour) she won't wear shoes, will sit on the floor and refuse to move when walking and going out at the moment is generally very difficult. A trip into central London a week before Christmas doesn't feel manageable for me and she would hate it, I also don't think my 4 year old would enjoy it that much. In order not to drip feed central London is my idea of hell too!
Ive told my family I won't be coming because of all these reasons and that I'll contact step sister to explain and try and arrange something else another time. My family are now making me feel very guilt by saying it's selfish of me not to go, it's only because I hate central London, we all have to do things we don't like, dd2 has to just deal with it etc.
Sound I just go despite the fact it will be extreamly stressful for me and my youngest or should I stand my ground with this one?