Aibu to hate these comments

[lastqueenofscotland]

This is very very trivial but it’s causing me massive amounts of stress!
So I’m not drip feeding I have a long long history of eating disorders – anorexia/bulimia/compulsive over-exercising etc, and after slipping back into old terrible habits I’ve been working really really hard on it of late.
There is a woman in my office who is lovely but forever commenting on what I’m eating/quantity/how I cooked it etc etc etc. Ie today I missed breakfast (BAD) and in an attempt to break habits went and bought lunch from a sandwhich shop that makes them to order, this is a big deal - it wasn’t something I’d made from home with perfectly measured ingredients. So that felt like I’d had a mini achievement that I’d gone and bought that and was enjoying eating it.
She comes hawking over going ‘ooo that’s a lot of food I don’t know where you put it’ etc and asking tonnes and tonnes of questions about what was in it. Suddenly I find myself trying to justify to myself what I had for lunch, desperately trying to work out how much blumming hummous they put in my hummous salad wrap, trying to work out if I can move around my weekends menu to have my lighter dinner tonight.
My issue really is that she does it a lot. Whatever I’ve got for lunch comes with questions ‘ooo what’s that/did you make it yourself/how much time do you spend cooking’ etc, even if I’ve eaten somewhere else she’ll bring up ‘oh go anywhere nice for lunch/have anything nice?’ every blumming day. I’ve no idea if she does this to other people but I actually find a lot of it really triggering. Feeling like I’ve been told off for eating too much or ‘praised’ when I’ve eaten something she says looks healthy or whatever. I really do get that she is just making conversation, but I still find food a really pressured subject.
AIBU to find her perfectly innocent comments really upsetting?! I also really want to ask her not to but I also don’t want the whole office knowing I've got issues!

Well done on your continuing recovery. A lot of people do this, often because they have issues of their own and it is deeply annoying even if you don't have an ED. Since you say she's nice and well meaning, then it would probably be best if you could find the strength to say "Actually (there are reasons why) I really prefer not to talk about food. Could we talk about last night's telly instead?" The bit in brackets perhaps optional.

Best wishes for the future.

Commenting on what other people are eating is always rude IMO.

How on earth is commenting on what people are eating always rude?? That's just silly.

"Oh Jill, that salad looks lovely. Did you make it yourself or buy it on the way in?"

Not rude.

It's rude as it's intrusive. Jus because a comment is positive doesn't stop it being unwelcome.

YANBU.
there was this woman where I used to work who,not only had to comment on anything anybody else was eating, but she had to come and bloody smell your food as well and then comment on the smell!
I really had to work hard to stop myself from screaming!

Don't share more information than you want to but please tell her she's irritating you.

I worked with someone on a project once. We expense our lunches so always buy take out to eat in front of the computer whilst working. Very quickly we realized we'd separate to buy lunch because she likes organic salads etc and I like pasta/hot food because it's my main meal.

Hands up its totally my issue but every so often (not daily by any means) I would comment on her lunch, saying how much healthier it was than mine or gently teasing her about it not being organic today.

Fortunately we only worked together a few months because later she made a cutting remark in front of others about how irritating I was commenting on her lunch

I was mortified. I'd more done it to put my own lunches down and hadn't realized how annoying I'd been.

I now never comment on people's food but still feel a rush of shame when I see the woman at work.

YANBU

I find this annoying enough when there isn't any emotion attached to it

It's part of office waffle that is often instigated by very bored people.

I would say something like "you've got a thing about food haven't you" with a raised eyebrow and see if it stops.

I had this in an office, and it tipped me right back to anorexia in the end. I couldn't escape from it. constant, constant - and I'd been in recovery for 8 years or so. I think it's serious and you should talk to your boss/line manager/raise it as a concern. I did and it was ignored. I ended up very unwell. It would be a good idea if you mention your history to your workplace - BUT also probably easier to do so in a way that still indicates this is going to annoy anyone not just you. Also, have lunch outside the office - you don't need scrutiny or comments.