Am I gullible

[mayyourtongueturnblack]

I have name changed .A woman at work who has as lot of previous for telling rather large lies and little lies has said her niece was killed in the Paris attack .
When mentioned to two other people they raised their eyes and said "really "
I had believed her up to this point but and here's the but .
She said originally she was at the concert with her boyfriend then it changed after people at work started asking awkward questions .to one of the cafes.She also said that her name wouldn't be on the official list as her aunty had asked that it not be due to family discord
.People at work want to raise money for charity and put her nieces name forward as a sort cause.
She has said to them she didn't want to use her name .She said her niece didn't have a Facebook page .She was 24.
Now obviously it is none of my business if she chooses to lie as obviously she is struggling with her life if she chooses too.lie so spectacularly But my question is am I gullible ?Would you believe her given her track record of proven liar .

I used to work with a compulsive liar

The stories she told were always linked to news, films and at her worst 'inspired' by other colleagues' life events

If people are saying your colleague tells untruths, I would go with them. They wouldn't have any mileage in making that up, would they?

She's lying. If you believe her, yes you are a bit gullible. Sorry.

I wouldn't believe her.

I can smell the bullshit from here.

She is lying. And yes you are gullible. Especially since she has form for it.

I worked with a girl like this. She got pregnant, had an abortion and was pregnant again all in the space of one week

She's a grief vampire trying to revel in the outpourings of sympathy. If other colleagues have eye-rolled she's probably got form for 'losing' friends and relatives in disasters & atrocities.

I knew someone similar who had claimed to have known or been related to people killed in everything from Herald of Free Enterprise sinking, to Hillsborough, to 9/11.

that sounds like bollocks to me

Not getting somethinb here - people at work say she's a liar, but want to raise money for her neice who they think she is lying about?

I fucking hate people like this. Have worked with several. I never let them think I believe their bullshit, and if at all possible I challenge what they've told me if it changes, or if I find out they've told someone something else.
I kind of feel sorry for their attention seeking behaviour as you've got to be fairly screwed up to lie all the time about everything, but I just find it all so tedious.

Personally, if she's always lying and you really don't believe her, I'd call her on it, all the inconsistencies, and let her back herself into a corner. Then I'd ignore her bullshit and let her know I think she's a liar.

I felt mean for disbelieving her in the first place .DOH

Was in maybe more people disbelieve her than I thought.

I'm sorry but it does sound like she's lying I worked with an American lady who I was very good friends with over a few years and eventually she told me her husband, who was an ex-fireman, died in 9/11 and I believed her because she was believable. She said she'd moved to the UK to escape the memories. We worked in law!

But over time people started saying to me 'she's lying to you' but I would defend her as I felt surely no- one would ever lie about this. Eventually, after her being burgled for God knows how many times, her mothers death (twice) I started to realise why her daughter lives in HK and had nothing to do with her (the only truth I think she ever told me)

I know loads of 24 year olds who dont have facebook, so possibly true.

if she has facebook I would try and find a link or a "nice quote" and saying something along the lines of, been thinking of your niece today, my thoughts are with her family and friends, then put #prayforparis

But no I don't think it would be true... and it is something that really management needs to address,

She said she was at the concert where 89 people were gunned down

That's so, so bad. I'd tell your bosses and let them deal with it.

I worked with someone like that , complete nut job. People did warn me though, I believed a bit till the lies became so outrageous.

I wouldn't say you were gullible for believing her at first, especially if you weren't aware there was a history of lying or tall stories from her.

But as her story changed I would think most people would pick up on the inconsistencies and oddities about it and start to suspect she wasn't telling the truth.

What a vile thing to lie about though. I never understand people who want to climb on the bandwagon of tragedy.

What a disgusting person she is! Who the hell does that? What is wrong with some people?

Some of her previous lies have been about me Lol but it didn't occur to me that she would lie.

I would be deeply suspicious. Some people just love attention and will do anything to get it. It is really pathetic.

Jef not her personally at the concert, her niece was there the first time she told me .I put the inconsistency down to it being in Paris and the confusion of it all

It doesn't make you gullible. It makes you a nice person. Nothing wrong with that.

I think it's a form of mental illness really; I've known a few people who have done this, one friend at university and a few adults with various degrees of learning difficulty that I have worked with.

She can't help it - that's where the 'compulsive' in compulsive liar comes from. She needs understanding rather than abuse.

She's a compulsive liar. Don't give her money.

What has she said about you that's a lie?