to hate working with a pregnant princess?

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or rather not working with a pregnant princess?

as she is taking time off work because she is 'tired' or has a 'sore throat'

or simply not doing work or avoiding work during working hours?

Please don't compare her pregnancy to some one else. I was pregnant at the same time as my friend at work. She had a lovely East pregnancy, I had a terrible one and was in and out of hospital for most of it. My boss constantly called me up on the fact that my friend could do the things I said I couldn't do and made me feel like shit.

I was pregnant at the same time as another employee. My pregnancy was horrendous. Hers was a walk in the park (her words). I hated being compared to her - she wasn't sick once. I was sick every bloody day for 9 sodding months (both times).

With pregnancy number 2 I called in sick with a migraine once. I actually had a "sore throat" which meant that I'd been so sick all the lining of my throat and mouth had been burnt by the acid. I couldn't even sip water for 24 hours and couldn't eat anything for 48 hours. But as I was hiding my pregnancy because I wanted a promotion I had to find a different reason.

I'm 27 weeks pregnant and I've had a few days off here and there when it got too much.

No one is going to give me a medal for struggling into work while I'm putting my body through massive physical strain and my brain through a massive headfuck. I certainly don't get a medal while I'm working my ass off and my colleagues are pissing about and taking time off for ridiculous reasons (known to the boss) left right and centre.

If I found out anybody was bitching about me behind my back I'd kick them in the crotch. Repeatedly.

I'm pregnant and struggling at work too. Trying to put a brave face on it but suffering with severe vomiting, utis, aches and pains and I am exhausted.
My college however looks fantastic and admits she feels great.

Pregnancy effects everyone differently!

If there were any pregnancy complications a GP would surely confirm the need for time off work?
I did when I had such complications in the past when I had my 5 pregnancies and work have been very supportive.

Lets be frank here, how many of you with children and pregnant can rest when feeling the normal but unpleasant side effects that pregnancy brings?

I once worked with a definite 'princess' I knew her before and after, so it was definitely pregnancy related. We worked closely together doing a physical job and basically she suddenly stopped doing anything remotely physical, at all. I had to do it all, the things that made her sick, the lifting, the bending , the reaching, all from day one of her pregnancy. The reason was because I Mced my Dc1, she decided it was because I worked as normal and she 'didn't want that the happen to her baby.' She spent her time having smoke breaks instead.

I dealt with it by giving birth four weeks before her. Yes I was pregnant too.

If there were any pregnancy complications a GP would surely confirm the need for time off work?

Ok, firstly, how long is she off for? Is she self-certifying?

Secondly, I've got low iron. I can't stand for more than 5 mins without feeling like I'm going to pass out. It never occurred to get a doctor's note, unless I'll need to be signed off for longer than self-cert.

My boss hates people having time off sick because he never has any time off sick (he never GETS sick). Is that what's happening here?

Furthermore, work is not like being at home. Work requires a tremendous amount of concentration that daily errands don't. Plus, unless your 'princess' has a toddler, I don't see what that has to do with it.

It's really hard to say whether she's a princess, feeling utterly shit, or has complications that she doesn't want to share.

I was sick on myself in the car (while I was at traffic lights) early afternoon one working day (I visit people in their own homes) I called my manager asking if she could cancel my last two visits for the day and I will go and work from home. She told me that morning (or all day) sickness was mind over matter and I should try harder not to vomit next time.

GruntledOne - did we work together? Sounds almost exactly how my last job/unexpectedly fast conception played out. I think I worked 7 months of the almost 2 years I was employed. Unintended, and very embarrassing . Some people try for years, DH and I conceived first try, than I had to tell my boss before I'd even completed my probationary period at work, then got ill and instead of working til the last minute had to start mat leave at 26 weeks. Nightmare . The company were lovely about it but I felt I'd let them down terribly.

YANBU. As long as she doesn't have any serious complications, some people deal with general (obviously not talking constant relentless sickness and SPD here) pregnancy symptoms better than others.

I'm 14 weeks, still doing everything as normal including teaching cardiovascular fitness 4 times a week, but some people at my day job have been having a fit over me moving a truly insignificant table with a colleague

I'm not going to put my baby at risk, and I'm fully aware of my body's limits. So far, I've had half a day off for a horrible head cold where I couldn't get through the day. Otherwise, I've necked lucozade and cracked on.

The previous two months were the worst; the exhaustion was never ending and I'd have loved to take two weeks off to sleep, but life goes on!

Is she a princess or is she genuinely struggling?

I was flogged into the ground by my employers - I had severe sickness for the entire pregnancy and spd by halfway through. Until 30 weeks I hadn't felt like I could take a single day off because of the attitude of my management. They're USA based and don't accept time off/think all europeans are works by commies.
So I worked through, despite feeling like death, fainting in my office and vomiting at least ten times a day.

By 30 weeks i was so ill and so crippled with spd that I was signed off for the rest of the pregnancy. I genuinely believe that if work had not been such unutterable arse holes id have been able to work as long as I intended. As it was, any guilt or obligation I felt had Long since evaporated and I gratefully accepted the sign off.

She may well be totally precious but do be aware that some women are just floored in some pregnancies.

My replacement at work is also pregnant now, and I a similar situation. They'll lose her as well

If there were any pregnancy complications a GP would surely confirm the need for time off work?

Not necessarily. Not all GP's are good. Not all GP's accept pregnancy issues.

I had chronic sickness with my first, an entire month of permanent migraines, and then severe SPD. My colleagues were bitches. Called me precious, said I was being OTT with symptoms etc. My GP didn't help.

Second pregnancy, self employed. HG diagnosed, severe again, SPD worse, migraines worse.

Third pregnancy now. All of the above again, luckily self employed still. Thank god I don't work with any of those judgmental types any more

Also, had chronic endometriosis before pregnancies, and had to have time off during periods (2 days a month) and again, bitchy colleagues judged and hated me because their periods weren't that bad so therefore mine shouldn't have been. GP was useless then as well.

Try not to judge others. Carrying a baby is incredibly special, and also difficult for those who have had previous miscarriages. It may make them seem precious, when all they're doing is trying to keep their precious baby safe.

I had an easy pregnancy, but if I was feeling a bit rough I wouldn't drag myself to work the way I would when not pregnant. It's not about being a diva it's about looking after yourself.

I had a very sensible manager during my first pregnancy. I was signed off for 10 days when I finished in A&E at 4 months pregnant.

When I got back he told me that I can adjust my hours however I want, as long as I do my work and I don't get signed off again! (he was smiling when he said this, said he needed me too much)

So I would come in earlier to avoid being in crowded transport and leave early. When I overdid it one day I went home at 4pm (4 hours earlier than normal). My manager made me do conference calls instead of travelling all over the place. I went for a lie down in the medical bay to recharge my batteries.

Consequently I did the best I could and really wanted to repay my manager for the faith he had in me.

She sounds like a shirker to me. And probably is whether pregnant or not. YANBU.