Facebook; what do you think, no nasty comments

[JeffVadersMum]

Has anyone seen much of this on Facebook;

People posting photos with stuff they have made or outfits they've put together with a "what do you think, no nasty/negative comments"

Now I'm not going to put a nasty comments, but if you're asking for feedback surely you must expect someone not to like that purple red and green monstrosity that you've thrown together in the dark. ...?

Is it the stealth boast of fb?

The odd selfie, there's nothing wrong with that.

But, the people who post pics of themselves every day, in various poses are so obviously only doing it because they need continuous complimenting.
Probably because their whole existence is based around their looks and nothing else?

Maybe we should feel sorry for them, instead of unfriending them.

It's attention seeking at best, compliment fishing at worst. Ignore them.

Feeling sorry for them isn't going to stop the photos coming through.

FB is fundamentally narcissistic (you don't post anything on FB without the hope that as many people as possible will 'like' it), but in this instance I think they're hoping for constructive criticism. Though why they can't actually say that I don't know .

Never seen this on FB, but my friends are mainly in their 40s. Perhaps that is why.

If it's in a craft group then people should be prepared for constructive criticism, otherwise what is the real point in posting?

I think that constructive criticism is what they mean, as opposed to the "it looks shit" comments.

I don't see FB as narcissistic - more just a platform to connect with your friends and family. 'Like' is just a quick way of saying 'that's lovely' - do people really look for as many people as possible to like their stuff? I don't . We're older though, so maybe we use it in a very different way from the young 'uns.

I'm 44 . I do think, however subliminally it might be, that FB is narcissistic. Otherwise why not set something up privately on Flickr to share photos etc with friends and family. That's what DH wishes I would do (he hates FB with a passion). I'm too lazy though. And I know that if I post something that gets a lot of likes I'm chuffed, even though I know I shouldn't be.

I'm 46, so am positively ancient compared to you

FB is used by more people and I like the fact everything is the one place - so my groups, friends and family are all there, I can PM them and I can post photos, news, updates, links and so on. I certainly don't do it to get 'likes'.

But do you like it when you do? If you get double the number of likes for one post than you go normally - do you not notice or not care or do you think, hey look, loads of people liked that'? If you really and truly don't notice or care then hats off to you. But I think most people do, which is why it can be do damaging. All social media can be like that unless you are immensely self-assured.

I honestly don't care - don't know if that makes me immensely self-assured or totally head in the clouds (probably the latter ). I suppose it's because I don't have hundreds of 'friends' on there - just my real friends and family, so if any of them like the post/photo/whatever I just think "oh Fiona has seen it" as opposed to anything else.

I'm very similar to Sir I use the messaging a lot to chat with family and friends and tend to post things that I've found funny or link things to particular people that I think they will find interesting. I used to post things the kids had said or done that I thought family would enjoy but not so much now that they are teens.

I have quite a large spread out family though so it's things I would forget to tell people when I met them.

I don't do it for the "likes" either, but may at times do it for the banter :o

I am a member of lots of groups related to the kids activities and local groups so I also find that a useful way to find out what is going on in the community.