Irresponsible family members - mad

[Lemon666]

My DB and SIL have just left their two kids (11 and 12 years old) home alone for three days. They went 10 hours drive from home.

Well yes that sounds bad. What are you going to do about it?

Can you go and make sure there ok or invite them to stay at yours? Do they seem ok on their own-although I don't think I'd leave my children that she on their own

That's awful.

What are your intentions.

Could they have stayed with you?

DB or not I would report them to Social Services for neglect

Can't do anything about it as they live abroad where it is totally legal to leave children at any age. Just so mad about it.

Obviously you call social services

If you don't it just condones it

Police? Which country?

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Where abroad?

Really unlikely if it's in Europe it's legal

The law's a bit woolly on this. Personally I think they've been irresponsible, selfish cunts but not sure if they've broken the law.

It's the US in a state where it's not illegal to leave children

Just seen they're not in UK, not a lot you can do then.

Yanbu they are far too young to be left alone for that length of time.

I'm sure there will still be some authorities you can contact, child services?

I'd ring the local police department to them and get advice

Presuming that you are too far away to go there, and therefore haven't seen them, how do you know?

Apparently they can cook and fend for themselves. Never known such selfish people. Seriously finished with them. I'm at the point where I don't want to speak to them again

I've looked into it, it's not illegal.

Because they told my parents tonight.

You are right, it seems it's not illegal, ages differ depending on the state.
everydaylife.globalpost.com/child-home-alone-laws-california-3166.html

Are you sure there was no one looking after them?

But surely you can just ring the local police just for clarification? They might go and check on them?

I wouldn't cut off contact with them because I think the kids need their extended family to stay in touch.

Can you find an excuse to send the children a card each in the next few days/weeks? With your phone number on it maybe? See if you can speak to them next time you're in touch? just let them know you are around.

They may have friends popping in and they're close to their neighbours.

I'd call social services anyway. In my state, there's no "official" age at which it's legal to leave kids home alone; it's supposed to be common sense and what is considered reasonable. Authorities here would be unlikely to consider this reasonable...

So there is definitely no adult with them overnight?

They said that they were home alone all weekend. I barely speak to them, my parents have told me because they are upset about it.

It's just so they can have time alone... why have kids?