To worry if I'll love unborn child as much as DS?

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I hear that you have equal love for children - is this really true? DM has always said she loves my sister more as she "likes her better and has more similar interests" but still loves me.

With DS I had an awful pregnancy and didn't have the instant love as had PND it took a while but I do love him completely unconditionally and always look back with regret and guilt at the first few weeks/months.

Now I'm pregnant with no.2 already having an horrific pregnancy and can see it ending the same way where I have pre/post natal depression. I want to believe I'll love them equally - does this honestly happen?
Feel so guilty writing all this but don't want to say to anyone in RL

DexterJamesMummy that was beautiful you made me tear up I can't imagine going through that

OP I have one baby at the moment and want at least one more and I have to admit I have the same concerns. I just have to trust that the love grows for each child, if it doesn't nobody would ever have more than two!

Your mum sounds horrible. I only have one baby, but I think you love them more than you felt possible before you had them. I don't think you need to worth about number 2.

I worried about this, too.
It's like you suddenly get another heart to love with, and after a while you will love them both to the moon and back.
A bit like having a separate stomach for pudding when you are full from your main course!

I am currently in the same situation OP. This pregnancy has been in no way as horrific as the first though. You've voiced my feelings in a way I couldn't and hearing people say they have felt the same and its normal has put me at ease a lot. I hope you feel better for it too

dont worry you will love all your children the same .probably your mums comments hurt but just ignore them .

I adore the bones of my DCs but my bond with both of them is quite different at times. Partly because of their ages, partly because of their personalities, partly because that's just how it is. But I love them absolutely equally. There is no choosing or preferring or favourite. There's just love. They fill me up every single day with joy.

Tywin it's a horrible feeling and so overwhelming isn't it? I hope seeing the comments on here like I have, has eased it a bit for you.

Don't worry, each child brings its own parcel of love.

Oh, and your mother might have issues but she's still a bit of a cow to make you feel less loved than your sister. I say that as one whose mother sat on the end of her bed and told her (aged 2ish) "You should never have been born". I didn't find out until over fifty years later that three or more earlier siblings had been aborted.

That's so terrible time!