To need to hear some positive relationship stories......

[TooSassy]

That's it really. I'm going through a divorce and as such am spending a lot of time on the fabulous Relationships talk thread getting support. The flip side of spending time on there is I am over how awful some STBX's are!!!!! I thought I was alone, but it appears not.

So AIBU to want to hear about the gazillions of other healthy and happy relationships to get a balanced view of the world?

If YANBU, please share and provide a view of life with normal people! Give those of us going through some tough times a glimmer of hope!!!

Also I never take him for granted. I've seen too many people in painful relationships to be complacent. I know how lucky I am.

My DH is such a good man. He does more than his fair share of the childcare/ house work etc. He's loving and caring looks after me even when I'm being super stubborn ( having a painful pregnancy at the moment and finding it hard to let go of my independence and not being able to things for myself, but he is just being amazing).
He's a great dad who has all the time in the world to play with his kids as well as the tough stuff of discipline when needed.
We discuss everything and come to an agreement (though it can some times get slightly heated we never go to bed angry with each other) we laugh together, cry together and I couldn't imagine not being with him. But it's been 11 years now almost 10 married and he's not going anywhere any time soon and neither am I.

DH and I have been together 9 years, married 5. He's my perfect man (and I flatter myself I'm his perfect woman)- we don't shout at each other, or lie to each other (beyond Christmas presents and the like) and I trust and love him absolutely. And he loves our DD just as much as I do, we parent as a team and work together.

My parents were an amazing example to me - still are - I can't remember ever hearing them shout at each other and only very very rarely would they be cross. They've grown and changed together- they started with a very stereotypical marriage with my dad working and mum being a SAHM. During my lifetime she's started, grown, developed and now retired from her own successful business, with support from my dad all the way. They really listen to each other when the hearing aids work and respect each other's POV.

You can throw up now...

Ooh thanks for agreeing with me OP. That's a first. I think I used to be very insecure and unhappy. Assumed men could make me happy so I rushed into relationships with frankly anyone! And stayed in them despite being unhappy. When you're happy with yourself you pick much more wisely and they are more of a companion you respect rather than this rock you're clinging to desperate from them to save you. Which isn't healthy for anyone.

Lol, you're welcome! They are wise words you speak!

Met my OH when I moved into a shared house, he lived across the hall... We moved into a flat together at 9 months together, I helped support him starting up a new business and he in turn supported me when my job became so shitty I was miserable and he persuaded me to quit and I ended up with my dream job.

5 years on and I was woken up with a cuppa this morning, we are talking about TTC in the very near future, oh and we are getting married end of this week!

I think I chose the right house to move into!

Met my DH 13 years ago, have been married almost 10 and still love him more than anything else.
He has supported me through the worst times in my life and helped me deal with stuff that happened before we met - I honestly can't believe he's stuck with me through it all but he says I have helped him through some terrible times too.

I've posted before about the nicest thing he's ever done for me before but this comes a close second.

The other day he met me from work. My sister had the kids, so DH had had a day to himself. He met me from work and he had brought me a hot chocolate from Starbucks, which was lovely. We had a lovely chat on the way home, but when I walked through the door I found out that he had spent his entire free day cleaning the whole house so we could all go out together the next day.

Wow. Good people really do exist . Little bit at some of these!

Been married 13 years together nearly 17 years, good working life, love travelling, excerise etc, I adore him and he adores his family, he works away a lot so its difficult, had daughter 6 years ago, went through a bit of rough patch but through the other end now, we laugh love and respect each other as a family :)

The odd disagreement now and again :)

Went through the most horrific divorce and was then used left right and centre by men who could see my wounded heart a mile off.

Then met now-DH. From the start, he wasn't afraid to stick to plans and call when he said he would.

He is still as awesome as ever. He can tell from a look if I'm too knackered to cook/tidy up/walk the dog and he leaps to action. He buys me silly little presents or messages me silly pictures, that put a smile on my face for the rest of the day. He has supported me in every decision during pregnancy and beyond.

He shares the same dreams and ambitions, values and morals. We bicker, but have never had a proper fight. We disagree but always find a compromise.

He knows which foibles are a result of my previous shitty relationships, and can therefore be 'worked on', and which are my personality and are to be respected. He tells me every day that I'm beautiful and he loves me.

He is a dream come true on so many levels.

A mutual friend set DW and me up with each other.

My first wife I met when I commented on a book she was looking at in a bookshop.

One failed marriage, failed the day we met really, just took a while to see.

Been with DH for 12 years, married 9.5 years, one DC together and my DD from previous marriage, he is in every way her parent too, always has been. We have a great marriage, sure we argue sometimes but who doesn't with daily stress of normal life but our marriage is based on trust, friendship, respect and no matter what we always stand by each other. He is fab with the DC, does a lot of school runs, homework, fun stuff, he cooks, shops and treats me with love and respect.

For me, I think the biggest thing for us both is that we both have our own down time as well as family time, we both have our own sports and tend to have half a day each at weekends doing those. We also make sure we have time alone together in the evenings and have screen free times. (we both work with IT and it is very easy to let your life be lived in front of a screen)

I adore my DH and little family and know he feels the same.

The Relationships board scares me, that such shithead partners exist in such numbers! I have been very lucky.

DH and I have been together for 15 years, married for 6. We got together as teenagers, stayed together despite going to uni on opposite sides of the country. He is tremendous fun, we often get the giggles together. He is hugely supportive - my grandfather died when we'd been together a few months, and DH wasn't at all fazed by the wobbly ball of tears that I became, just offered lots of hugs. We propped each other up through almost four years of infertility and IVF, and now both enjoy playing with and caring for our 16-month old DD.

DH cooks dinner most days, and is generally an all-round good egg. When I was pregnant with DD, he brought me breakfast in bed (including freshly squeezed orange juice) almost every day, even though I wasn't working and he was.

If my DD ever asks me what to look for in a man, I'll tell her to look for one just like her dad. Kind, loving, and fun :)

Aww evil giraffe - that's beautiful.

We've been together 14 years and happily unmarried. We met in Australia when I was on a working holiday - he's a Kiwi. He eventually followed me back to the UK, and we're settled back in my home town, after a few years in different parts of the UK. We've 2 small kids, both work in demanding jobs, and I have had significant health problems for the last couple of years, but we commit to finding time to spend together every day to chat - even 10 mins over a coffee at 5.30am! He's a total and utter star; around the house, with the kids, putting up with my mental family, etc.

Since I've been having the health shit, he's taken on even more. He's amazing with the kids ( he's a primary teacher) and has been massively supportive of me too. I don't know how he does it. He's younger than me, looks great, and I still find him fit as f**k! Luckily he still thinks I'm pretty amazing too.

I can't believe how lucky I am most of the time - my gorgeous wee family and generally happy life. Fate that we were at the same party in Sydney in 2001!