To find it irritating when DH does this?

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I know in the vast scheme of things I don't have much to complain about, but:

DH and I pretty much share lie-ins. Because of his shifts there aren't two possible every weekend, so often he gets extra ones if he's off in the week while DS is at nursery. DS is 15 months and wakes any time between 5.30 and 6.30.

When it's my turn to get up, I get ds, give him a feed, keep him quiet and then get us both up without waking DH. When it's DH's turn he doesn't wake up, so I get ds, give him a feed and then start trying to wake DH while DS climbs all over me, goes 'boo!' 20 million times, pulls my hair etc, with me going 'dh please get up. You said you'd get up... PLEASE GET UP NOW!' This can all take up to 40 minutes - by the time he gets up (and then it's 'can you just hang onto him while I go to the loo/ find my slippers?') I am wide awake and generally seething. Sometimes I manage to go back to sleep but I think this morning is a lost cause...

I know he's a slow waker but if I said 'dh you have to get up- you're late for work!' he'd leap out of bed. AIBU to think he's being slightly dickish?

This is an issue with my "D"H, too. At 6.30am yesterday, when DS decided it was getting up time, he decided it was him who was getting a lie in. No discussion. Despite the fact that I had had a long and tiring week at work and he is currently unemployed, so usually goes back to bed once he's dropped DS at the childminder.

So I had a reverse lie in last night. I decided - no discussion - that I was having an early night. I went to bed after dinner, watched a bit of Strictly on the iPad and went to sleep!

He put DS to bed an hour later than he ought to and is now reaping the benefits of pissing off your wife, as he deals with a grumpy child and I enjoy my lie in.

I would go mad if dh acted like this. Mine are much older now but this morning he was up early and will tell them to be quiet if they are noisy because "mum is sleeping". And he just made me breakfast in bed. Tell them all to sort themselves out. But have the conversation when you are calm not in the morning when you want to kill them

Bleargh. He has I have to say been suitably apologetic now I've got up and explained why I'm annoyed. And made me tea. And it's early enough that I've managed to put our Sunday joint in the slow cooker so the oven will be free for roast potatoes later, so all is not lost...

If it happens again though I may get very cross. And bugger off to stay with my sister for a couple of nights to have ALL the sleep.

Why on earth are you all tiptoe-ing your houses on their lie ins when by your own admission you never get one because your OHs are being selfish and lazy and quite frankly don't give a shit that you're tired too.

The hoover would be out in my house. Or the music on full blast.

We normally both lay in bed with DD at the weekend for an hour chatting and playing but yesterday I slept in a bit because I wasn't feeling great and this morning my boyfriend is getting a lie in to return the favour.

I wouldn't be standing for this.
Just keep saying "it's your turn, I'm not getting up" while poking him in the ribs until he's out of bed.

Peter surely he could keep dc at home with him if he is unemployed?

I know exactly what you mean. Mine are 10 & 7 now but when they were younger, dp never got up early with them. He sometimes said he would bu managed to sleep though them waking. Ds1 was never too bad but ds2 went through a long phase of waking at 5.30am. A nightmare when you have to get up & go to work all day! I used to rectify this by going to bed very early - 9pmish - and dp moaned about that. I was being "boring" apparently. I have never quite forgotten or forgiven this & nowadays everyone is under strict instructions not to wake me in the mornings.

DP also doesn't wake up automatically to a child calling/crying like I do, but I certainly don't get up, deal with the kids, and then ask DP to wake up - why do you do that?

Kick your DH out of bed as soon as you hear your child wake. If it's your lie in you certainly shouldn't be getting out of bed or feeding anyone.

Once he gets up, close the bedroom door behind him and make it absolutely clear he is not to disturb you again. If he needs the loo he'll just have to take the baby with him.

OP do you have any friends you could stay over with sometimes ( not every time) when it's your turn for a lie in?

Try yelling at him that he's got to get to work even when he doesn't?

YANBU and I sympathise as my DHdoes this, I don't think intentionally he's just crap at getting up quickly.
So I'll be awake with both DC and have sorted breakfast then he'll say "why don't you go back to bed". I appreciate the offer but by then I'm so 'up and awake' it would take me 2hours to nod back off!

Buy some ear plugs to use for your lie in days and then just LEAVE HIM TO IT.

Why the fuck are so many people tip toeing around their DP's on their days when they aren't getting the same treatment?

Weird as hell.

Mine gets annoyed when I go to bed early as I'm so tired by 9pm. He stays up until 12/1am so is always grumpy and tired early.

And all the posters on the first page of the thread put up with this because...?