To find being a twin claustrophobic at times?

[TwinnyReckon]

Any other twins care to share?

I live with my (female, fraternal) twin, mid-twenties and find it hard

Could you be honest and say that you're finding it a bit stifling spending every social occasion with her? I realise she doesn't have many friends of her own, but that's not your fault. Can you encourage her to be a bit braver? Insisting that you accompany her to everything is pretty spineless.

As for tagging along every time you go out, I think if she can't or won't accept a bit of honesty then you should start going out straight from work. But seriously, if you've got 10 months to endure I think its going to be easier to tell her that you'd like to see your friends on your own sometimes. It might just encourage her to make a bit more effort herself if you're lucky.

I don't like my twin sister, I stay in touch because our DCs adore each other, otherwise I wouldn't bother. I find her breathtakingly selfish and narcissistic.

I haven't spoken to my twin for 12 years. It wouldn't bother me if I never see her or speak to her again. The thought of living with her leaves me cold, I take my hat off to you op.
I do feel for our family who every now and then try and engineer a reconciliation.

I am watching my b/g twins playing together fantastically well. I do wonder how their relationship will grow. But non twin siblings also have difficult relationships (my dad hates his sister) and I sometimes think that society dictates that twins MUST be friends no matter what. Perhaps that is part of the problem?

My boy/girl twins are only 4 but very close. Same class at school but have good friendships with other children.

They gang up on me though! I think it must be much less less intense than being identical twins though, and less competitive than same sex twins?

The thing is that we are friends and do get on. But I feel like this arrangement is testing our relationship to the very limit. A bit of separation/independence and I'm sure we'd be chatting on the phone most days, messaging, whatever. Just hate the reality

I think people expect twins to have a "special bond". It's really silly when you think about it rationally.

I am NC with my twin; she is selfish, entitled and lazy. I don't tell anyone i am a twin as those who do know are shocked at the NC. We're expected to be closer than normal siblings, fuck knows why.

Tell me about it, drama!

Reckon, don't be kind when you present it. Not horrible, obvs, or cold, but don't gush and agonise. Don't get down and intimate with her - the less said the better.

Yy go straight out from work - and don't rush back all guilty. You have nothing to feel guilty about. Mind, I'd just move out. I'd just say it as a fait accomplis. Specifically don't respond to her anguish (if there is any), pretend you don't notice it.

As for buying a flat together - NO! Nip that in the bud right now.

This 'all on her terms' thing isn't looking good btw.

i work in a school and all our twins are placed in separate classes from the beginning at reception unless the parents request them to be in the same class or they are transferred from a different school and have always been in the same class which happened with one set a few years back

Hello,
Twin sister identical, my most supportive and lovely relationship, helped us gloss over and move on from bad patterns of behavior going up the generations above. My soul mate, best friend,drinking buddy
But also in our relationship we have at points where we got too twinny/co dependent moved away from each other, schools, uni, countries, without discussing it too much - just realizing we weren't being mentally very healthy

I was being terminally single when she had her first baby and realised it wasn't good for me (Bridget jones stereotype weeping into my wine on a friday night as all my friends had moved on) or her (became the outlet to download about her Dp rather than speaking to him) and so moved abroad, found a chap, had lovely dc and both settled and wish we could've see each other so much more :-(

Am aiming for being in the same old peoples home when we can cackle away at each other misremembering all the fun times we had with each other

Just to add, we spent all our 20s and some of our 30s flat sharing with other people
We did share for about 2 years in the middle but it was a bit of a let down - not helped by the fact that we didn't manage to be either both single or both in relationships until our mid 30s
Best to have own places!