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To be panicking about new job going tits up?

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MsRamone · 14/11/2015 09:03

Basically I was in a job I hated.
I was lucky enough to get an interview for my perfect job but didn't think I'd actually be successful so never thought to mention booked holidays in the interview and they never asked. I didn't even realise you had to mention it unless asked! My employment history is limited - ive only ever had one full time contracted job before.

Anyway I got the job. Great. Handed in my notice. I have two more weeks to work then I move to my new job.

Then last week I was thinking about my booked holidays (which my previous manager had cleared) and suddenly thought "shit, I need to clear that with new manager!" But I never thought it would be a big issue!
So I emailed her and told her the dates I had booked. 3 weeks scattered across may, June and August. One of which is my wedding and honeymoon so obviously can't be changed! Well she replied back asking if I had disclosed them at interview. I replied saying I hadn't as it didn't occur to me at the time and that I can cancel the August week but not the wedding or the June holiday as its all arranged and paid for. She's not replied!! Now I'm shitting myself that im in big trouble!

Aibu? Over-reacting? I've tried to ring her but couldn't get in touch. Can I lose the job over this?? Can they make me cancel my wedding and holiday??

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Imustgodowntotheseaagain · 14/11/2015 09:06

I've never discussed holiday commitments at interview - is this a specific job sector like the NHS where it's a requirement?

It would be unreasonable of them to ask you to cancel your wedding, but if you can compromise and offer to reschedule the others, that woukd make a good impression.

wowfudge · 14/11/2015 09:07

Did nobody ask you if you have any holidays booked during the recruitment process? Ime pre-booked holidays are honoured by new employers. I wouldn't read too much into it. I would also have dealt with it face-to-face once I'd joined.

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MsRamone · 14/11/2015 09:08

Yes it's NHS but I honestly didn't know you had to do that.

I can only reschedule the August holiday. The wedding can't be moved now and the June holiday revolves around an event which is specific to those dates

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BlueBlueSea · 14/11/2015 09:08

Try not to worry.

I work in HR and it is not unusual for people to start jobs with holiday already booked, nor unusual to not say till they start.

Your dates are months away and you are entitled to holiday, so there should not be a problem.

Good luck with the wedding and congratulations on the new job.

SummerNights1986 · 14/11/2015 09:09

I've also never (nor has dh) disclosed holidays at interview...that would be a bit presumptuous!

I have disclosed them at the point of job offer, which I think is pretty standard.

I honestly don't know though op...I would say you just have to wait and see and keep your fingers crossed. I wouldn't leave it too long though if she's not replied to your email. Just email again and say you're sorry to bug her but you're a bit worried and just needed to check that the holidays were OK.

whatdoIget · 14/11/2015 09:10

If you didn't know and they didn't tell you, it's not your fault. I'm sure it'll be fine.

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MsRamone · 14/11/2015 09:12

The thing is none of the dates are in school holidays (apart from the August one which ive offered to cancel) so it's not as if I'm asking for prime time annual leave.
And as said, it would seem a bit presumptuous to mention booked holidays at an interview surely?

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CarlaJones · 14/11/2015 09:14

If they didn't ask they can't complain. They are ages away and you've even offered to move the August holiday which will be popular with parents

Husbanddoestheironing · 14/11/2015 09:14

I would normally mention them when I accepted a job offer. If it's NHS you should be ok- and you have tried to meet them half-way by offering to cancel The Aug one and Aug is likely to be the difficult one anyway due to school holidays. They may just be busy/off on shift. You could try contacting their HR dept direct to check their policy on this, or some trusts have their HR policies available on websites now. Good luck

TheTravellingLemon · 14/11/2015 09:19

My old company policy was if you could show the holiday was booked before the job offer was made they had to honour it. I don't know whether that is a general rule or just specific to that company. You'd have to be a pretty mean boss not to ok it though, so I would try not to worry.

Littlef00t · 14/11/2015 09:38

Ideally you should have mentioned when they offered you the job, but if you didn't think to, and they didn't ask, and it wasn't on a form anywhere, I'd say that's their error.

mellicauli · 14/11/2015 09:51

If an organisation can't give you 2 weeks off in non peak times to get married with 7 months notice, I'd be looking for somewhere else to work. Taking leave is your contractual and legal right, not some huge favour. You shouldn't feel be made to feel guilty about taking it.

PegsPigs · 14/11/2015 09:52

6 months away and for your wedding? Yes they should be able to plan for that and no I wouldn't have disclosed it any earlier.

JumpandScore · 14/11/2015 09:57

I've never disclosed holidays at interview either, but I would have said "Oh by the way..." when I was accepting the job.

I wouldn't worry. She's either enjoying making you sweat a bit or (more likely) has been in meetings or away on leave herself and hasn't seen replying to you as her highest priority. It will get agreed, even if she wants to make you understand how inconvenient it is for her IYSWIM.

EBearhug · 14/11/2015 09:58

I've mentioned it when offered a job, but never at interview. I did start one job where you weren't allowed leave in the first here months (and made this clear in the application details.) I was allowed an exception for one day to attend my graduation. If it's not till next summer, that's plenty of time for them to plan round it.

yorkshapudding · 14/11/2015 10:16

I work for the NHS and have never disclosed booked holidays at interview. However, I would always mention it when given the call to say I've got the job. You've let them know in plenty of time so I don't think you need to worry.

Brocklady · 14/11/2015 10:17

Don't make (the common) mistake of assuming silence means irritation.

It is entirely possible that she knows she should have asked prior to this and she is worried because she hasn't followed procedure!

Pharmacistswife · 14/11/2015 10:18

As an NHS employee they have to honour any previous holiday bookings you've made. Unfortunately, some NHS middle management have a superiority complex and like to make up rules. Any problems talk to HR. Enjoy your holidays!!

Tabsicle · 14/11/2015 10:19

I would have done the same thing as you. If they didn't ask for details of pre-booked holiday at interview they shouldn't expect you to give. I also think you've given them loads of notice so it shouldn't be inconvenient. I mean, you do get annual leave. You would take it some time.

Definitely don't worry too much.

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MsRamone · 14/11/2015 11:31

Thanks guys, I'm just feeling stressed as Ive only just qualified and my post uni career has already been littered with fuck ups! I'm just wanting to settle down but things keep going wrong x

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tobysmum77 · 14/11/2015 14:06

I think you're panicking unnecessarily, she asked to find out if these were already in the system and hasn't replied cos it isn't a problem.

The job I have now I did disclose because I was out of work at the time but had a 2 week holiday booked in a fortnight's time so it impacted on when I was able to start.

DrSausagedog · 14/11/2015 14:57

Don't panic, I'm sure it will be fine. It's a long time away and not in school holidays so not likely to cause many problems. Plus you've shown willing to be flexible to conceal the August one if needs be.

The fact that she hasn't replied yet isn't a bad sign, she probably just forgot to or ran out of time. Just follow it up again on Monday but don't stress over it, I'm sure this sort of thing happens all the time.

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