Feeling pissed off with changes to famil life?

[passion4pno]

I probably am being unreasonable but feel frustrated anyway. Hubby has a mens group that meets on a Saturday morning. it's been going for a fromew years now and one of the members just got a new job so needs to change the day the group meets.
he works saturday and friday mornings now, that leaves evenings on Sondays.
Evenings will be hard as the kids have stuff on and we only have one car. I could walk to one of them and I said that would be ok except diner would be late that night. I don't want to use Sunday as we like to keep that day for family.
Just feeling pistsed.

Ask him why he's happy to put this club over his children's activities and family time.

agent

Reading it again, I think you are right. But then the OP came back and said she didn't drive so I have assumed she is talking about the Sunday.

But I do think you are right.

Op if agent is correct and the kids activities are during the week, can Saturday not be family day? If you really need/like a full day and evening?

Is it a hobby/group he can miss occasionally if there is something you want to do?

I don't think the whole group should change what works because of one person. But it could be that Saturday mornings don't really suit many so they all jumped at the chance to change it.

I don't think dhs club should take precedence over the kids if they already have an established club. But I am not sure that's the case now. It doesn't class with anything.

He's not allowed do one thing in a week because his wife wants him to chaffeaur her and the kids to activities she admits she can walk to?
What the fucking fuck?

If he only does one thing that is just for himself a week, I don't think that is unreasonable. Some possible solutions:

Learn to drive. This would be great for you and bring you a whole level of independence and freedom.

Drop one of the children's activities. Every weekday evening on activities is too much. They need down time.

Swap family day from Sunday to Saturday as a PP suggested.

Your H cooks the dinner on the evening you are late because of having to walk. Or he brings in a take away on his way back from his group.

Is there a weekly activity that you would like to do for yourself? Do an evening class, join a book group or craft club or woman's group, see friends, go to gym or swimming by yourself? If you had equal free time to do an activity by yourself while he looked after the children and cooked the evening meal, you might feel less resentful.

Even if it was the sunday - there's no reason why it shouldn't be the kids who give up their activity in favour of the dad, everyone deserves time to do what they want, "kids activity" doesn't trump everything else.

So you'll have all day Sunday for 'family day' just not the evening? I think YABU. It's one evening that he wants to do something. You have the rest of the day, and presumably Saturday mornings when he used to be busy?

Thanks for the replies. It seems you have all misunderstod my posts.
I have NO issue with him having his time. None at all.
I was just feeling a little frustrated as hubby works shift work and so family days are few.
Kids activities are during the week. I walk when I can or organize a lift. I do NOT expect my hubby to drop every thing to transport the kids, although he will if he is home.

Driving is not an option as I am vision impaired.
We have discussed the issue, and they have decided it will be saturday or Sunday evening. a

Thanks again and sorry for the mis understanding.

Ah, now I get you. So he is going to work around family time after all. What a good egg