To be mad with DH today?

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We are in the process of moving house. I have done ALL the packing. We move tomorrow and I start a new job on Monday. Goes without saying I'm stressed and wanted him here to help with packing/arranging house viewings etc.
Instead he went to the pub with his dad. Promised to be back at 8. Called at 8.45 to say he was going to his mums house. Only left there at 9.45 when I phoned shouting at him to get home.
He's now in a mood saying "I have an issue with him spending time with his family" and "there's nothing he could do to help anyway". To clarify, I am moving tomorrow - he is coming down on Tuesday, so he would have 3 whole days to see his family, it didn't have to be today.
AIBU to be so pissed off????

Yanbu. I don't think ywbu to move and suggest he follows on the 12th of never either.

Thank you! That's exactly how I'm feeling right now! He's trying to make it out to be some big issue between me and his family - when I just needed him here to shift and pack some fecking boxes!!!!

House viewings when you move tomorrow, eh? YANBU though, he's ridiculous. You should have gone out too and not come home til gone moving time, then he would have to help!

Moving into my mothers for a few weeks so we have time to find a rental place (moving to other end of the country) - wanted him to at least look at some options online so I could set up viewings for when he arrives.
I should have went out. The way I'm feeling right now I want to leave him here!!!!

YANBU

But you are being unreasonable moaning knowing what you picked as a partner. I bet this isnt the only issue. He hasnt just decided to be an arse has he?

Pinot that's a bit harsh lol. Op make things clear to him, often everything needs spelling out

why does everything need to be spelled out Mmmm? are men that stupid? i think not. If a man does this, he has form for it and its not a first or it wouldnt be an issue, he wouldnt do it if he thought a relationship was 50/50. therefore the OP wouldnt need to post about it.

Pinot so it'a the OP's fault so 'choosing' him as a partner? That's the most fucking ridiculous thing I ever heard.

My ex was a wonderful husband and father for years. Until the day he threw me down the stairs. I suppose that was my fault too?

LTB isn't strong enough. KTB. With a rusty spoon (to reference the classics).

Pinot I think you need to step away from your namesake

I just wouldn't have packed any of his stuff. I don't understand why you did, especially as he couldn't be bothered himself.

So he's moving away from his family in 3 days? So whilst he might be able to see them in those 3, it will presumably get a lot harder afterwards, I think you're missing some of the story if all you wanted him for was to "look at rental options", because that also didn't need to be done today, any more than seeing his family did.

Perhaps he wants to spend as much time as he can with his parents before he leaves, to live at the other end of the country with you. Perhaps he felt he could look at places another time, not late on a Friday night. Are you sure you're not just resenting him being with his parents and not with you?

I think it depends on why you are moving and also whether or not it would have made any difference is he was at home i.e. was the packing finished? Why was there "nothing he could have done anyway"? If the packing was done and you only wanted to be at home to arrange house viewings, you are being a bit controlling.

are you sure you want to move in with him?