My partner and I have been together for 8 months, but we’ve know each other for many years. We don’t live together yet, but spend most nights together either at his place or mine. I’m South London, him North.
We’re going to a wedding this weekend and have both taken Friday off work to travel and spend Friday night at a hotel close to the venue. We had arranged that he would stay at mine tonight (Thursday) and I’d planned to cook.
He came over last night to stay too, and announced he’d been offered a ticket to a gig close to his flat on Thursday night. I do not have any problem with him going to the gig at all, but asked straightaway if he intended to come back to mine afterwards as we’d planned. He said he would. About an hour later he said he thought it would be easier for him to go home to his own place after the gig.
I felt upset about it, after he’d said he would come back, only to then change his mind. We didn’t have a massive row about it, but I felt very torn between trying not to let him know I was upset about it and telling him truthfully that I was really. So I told the truth and got told I was being silly and that we were going to being spending the whole weekend together, so why did it matter? I started to feel like I was stupid for being so bothered, but on the other hand, somehow rejected.
I suppose if it was reversed, I would’ve definitely made sure I went back to be with him. AIBU to have expected him to do the same?