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Do people really consider it unreasonable to eat on the train?

788 replies

MyNewBearTotoro · 12/11/2015 09:42

Reading another thread in which a poster mentioned eating on the train and I was really surprised by the responses calling her unreasonable/ antisocial for bringing food onto the train and the vitriol she was facing for this alone.

Do people really consider it unreasonable to eat on the train or is this just one of those 'only on Mumsnet' things?

I know it's not pleasant to be stuck next to someone eating smelly food, but equally lots of things are unpleasant on trains - being crammed in close to a stranger, oversized luggage, crying babies, other people's conversations, air-conditioning to high/low etc - but just because some people may find it unpleasant does that automatically make it unreasonable or anti-social?

In an ideal world people would not bring smelly food onto the train, but in an ideal world neither would people bring on crying babies/ noisy children etc but we are human and we need to eat, especially as many people will be making journeys over several hours long. Choices of food are usually limited by either what is available on board the train or what is available from the shops on/ around the station and sometimes hot or fast food is the only option available.

Obviously hot food is permitted on trains, my local train company has buffet carriages which sell hot food (including bacon rolls) and sandwiches (including tuna fish or egg mayo) for people to buy. So I'm not questioning whether it's allowed but I guess I'm curious as to whether people genuinely think it shouldn't be. And, considering it is allowed, are people who do eat on trains genuinely considered anti-social or unreasonable by some?

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Sidalee7 · 18/11/2015 21:13

I had read this thread thinking how ridiculous, what is wrong with the odd pasty on the train at 11pm...until today when I was on my 7am commuter packed train and the lady next to me starts unwrapping and eating the smelliest onion omelette ever...I was nearly sick.
How could she think this was an ok thing to do?!

mrsjanedoe · 18/11/2015 21:43

because of she thinks like all the people above, who have no education, no manners, and believe they are entitled to everything. "I am hungry, so I eat now, screw you". (aside from the medical issues)

Some of us manage to work 12 hours + , commute, and still not make a nuisance of ourselves. It wouldn't even cross my mind to eat stinky food in a packed train or tube carriage. I am struggling not to be sick as it is with the smell of sweat, cold cigarettes and general dirt coming from some unwashed commuters. Others are obviously used to live in that sort of environment, so feel at home and are comfortable enough to have their breakfast/ diner there. I shiver when I imagine the state of their home!

Mehitabel6 · 18/11/2015 22:12

There is a massive exaggeration here!

I don't know where some of you travel, but I did a return journey by train yesterday and it was crowded, but peaceful and without incident. I bought a coffee on the station and carried it on. The buffet trolley came through and I didn't have anything but some people had drinks, sandwiches and crisps. It did the same on the way home, again I didn't have anything but others did. I have no idea which sandwich filling they had.

All the passengers looked clean, no BO or cigarette smell. No need for me to 'shiver' - I didn't imagine the state of their homes!

I took my packed lunch into the small volunteer room on Monday. I had egg sandwiches, I saw someone with a cold pasta salad, someone else heated something in the microwave- not sure what it was but it included cheese. I noticed a smoked salmon and cream cheese sandwich. No one 'chomped' or ate with their mouths open. It was very civilised with chat- the way eating normally is. This is why eating is social, it is something you commonly do for special occasions, couples on dates, festivals, business lunches- even business breakfasts. It is not some furtive activity that is anti social and disgusting!

GoneAndDone · 18/11/2015 22:51

Some of you clearly live in naice areas...

I got on a bus today and someone had left a pile of chicken bones on a seat from eating fried chicken. FFS. Just no.

Mehitabel6 · 18/11/2015 22:56

A long distance train is going to have a cross section of areas.

SmallLegsOrSmallEggs · 18/11/2015 23:10

Some of us manage to work 12 hours + , commute, and still not make a nuisance of ourselves.

here's your Star for starving workaholic martyrs.

I shan't offer you Cake

Wink
reni2 · 18/11/2015 23:18

I bet most commuter train eating is just a sneaky way of getting in a secret extra meal. There was a lunch sandwich at work and there will be dinner at home. I do that sometimes, I'm just greedy and bored, I can spot you, takes one to know one.

I know some people are ill and need to eat hourly, some are 3 years old and need it and some are going on a 9h train trip. The 17:32 South West Train service from Waterloo to Guildford doesn't take that long.

Sidalee7 · 19/11/2015 07:15

My commuter train and tube journey definitely has smelly/fag reeking people! Some men just don't seem to shower...
London in rush hour is horrific. And a home made omelette with copious onion is an unreasonable thing to be eating on a packed train - the journey is only 20 mins!

Mehitabel6 · 19/11/2015 07:51

Maybe so Sidalee7 but that doesn't mean that a well washed, non smoker, going from Birmingham to Glasgow across the middle of the day is being antisocial and disgusting to have a coffee, tuna sandwich and packet of crisps for lunch whilst sitting in her seat!

GoneAndDone · 19/11/2015 08:50

Mehitabel I don't think most of us are saying they are, in that situation. But you seem not to be able to acknowledge that there are many inconsiderate people on many trains and their smelly pasties and fried chicken do bother many of us.

Mehitabel6 · 19/11/2015 08:55

There is also massive over exaggeration and we have heard from at least 2 people who find a tuna sandwich antisocial and don't want any food on trains. We had the mad idea that there was a 3 rd class carriage for food when we all know that one of the perks of 1st class is food.

HesterShaw · 19/11/2015 11:13

Keep going, you'll fill the thread soon.

This is insane, absolutely insane.

HEY ALL NORMAL PEOPLE - THERE'S NOTHING WRONG WITH HAVING A BITE TO EAT ON A TRAIN - CARRY ON!

YES I AM SHOUTING.

GoneAndDone · 19/11/2015 11:58

Are those of you denying it's an issue in the habit of invalidating other people's feelings in general?

I mean, I'm sure there are a lot of things in life that I'm totally ok with but you feel annoyed/anxious/uncomfortable etc. about. But I'm not going to say "it's not an issue, at all" just because it isn't an issue for me.

reni2 · 19/11/2015 18:41

Imagines bits of food flying in the commuter train as HesterShaw shouts with her mouth full Grin

HesterShaw · 19/11/2015 18:59

I would love to do that! However my commute involves a 5 minute walk into town. I'm not sure if I've ever been on a commuter train at rush hour. Train journeys tend to be four/five hour affairs. Hence my incredulity at certain posters begrudging me a tasty lunch en route.

Ok having a full on curry on the 6.15 from London Bridge to Peckham Rye might be a bit much, but the way some people are carrying on is absurd.

Actually I did go through London at rush hour once, with a rucksack and a pair of skis. Maybe I deserve stoning to death for that one.

reni2 · 19/11/2015 19:01

Maybe you could eat something so obnoxious it will benefit even people just walking near you?

expatinscotland · 19/11/2015 19:03

'Actually I did go through London at rush hour once, '

I have, too, with man-whose-body-was-on-mine and then, the twat who was so concerned with getting into my seat when I made a movement to get up, he pushed me so I was on man-whose-body-was-on-mine's lap, so said man touched me on my bare skin to get me off his lap. Uggh! I would happily endure all the onion omlettes and curries in the world to avoid that. LOL. See what I mean? It is my issue, not poor squished up man by window.

HesterShaw · 19/11/2015 19:25

Thank you reni - I think that's a good plan. I often have breakfast on the foof, so maybe Garlic Cloves On Toast?

HesterShaw · 19/11/2015 19:25

Er....that'll be hoof. Not foof Blush

TaliZorah · 19/11/2015 19:26

Hester rucksackers are second on my shitlist of "train arseholes". Angry

HesterShaw · 19/11/2015 19:27

Oh dear.

What about skis?

TaliZorah · 19/11/2015 19:36

Never seen skis on a train tbh

reni2 · 19/11/2015 19:38

I just don't like sharing tight spaces much, I guess that's true for most people. Especially a really full train, I don't like people enough to have so bloody many of them. Some smell, some eat noisily, some use seats for their bags, manspread, yell into phones, try to make friends when pissed, kick me, the list is endless Grin. I do realise IABVU so I won't say anything of course. People are irritating and I am no exception.

Mehitabel6 · 19/11/2015 22:11

I put my things in a rucksack on the train, much easier to manage, and take a sandwich!

Mehitabel6 · 19/11/2015 22:11

You see skis on airport trains.