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Do people really consider it unreasonable to eat on the train?

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MyNewBearTotoro · 12/11/2015 09:42

Reading another thread in which a poster mentioned eating on the train and I was really surprised by the responses calling her unreasonable/ antisocial for bringing food onto the train and the vitriol she was facing for this alone.

Do people really consider it unreasonable to eat on the train or is this just one of those 'only on Mumsnet' things?

I know it's not pleasant to be stuck next to someone eating smelly food, but equally lots of things are unpleasant on trains - being crammed in close to a stranger, oversized luggage, crying babies, other people's conversations, air-conditioning to high/low etc - but just because some people may find it unpleasant does that automatically make it unreasonable or anti-social?

In an ideal world people would not bring smelly food onto the train, but in an ideal world neither would people bring on crying babies/ noisy children etc but we are human and we need to eat, especially as many people will be making journeys over several hours long. Choices of food are usually limited by either what is available on board the train or what is available from the shops on/ around the station and sometimes hot or fast food is the only option available.

Obviously hot food is permitted on trains, my local train company has buffet carriages which sell hot food (including bacon rolls) and sandwiches (including tuna fish or egg mayo) for people to buy. So I'm not questioning whether it's allowed but I guess I'm curious as to whether people genuinely think it shouldn't be. And, considering it is allowed, are people who do eat on trains genuinely considered anti-social or unreasonable by some?

OP posts:
BarbarianMum · 12/11/2015 10:11

Street food has been an accepted part of life in the UK for hundreds of years, for ordinary people. That's not being out of date, that's being a snob.

lorelei9 · 12/11/2015 10:12

Rhoda - where's the "like" button? Grin

SaucyJack · 12/11/2015 10:13

"Who decides what food smells offensive and what smells acceptable?"

Well, if we're starting a list here then I want marzipan to go at the top.

Foul stuff.

foragogo · 12/11/2015 10:13

Doesnt really bother ne as longbas not excessively smelly or loud.

There are far worse commuter crimes - from last journey: yoofs playijg videos.and music on their pbone without headphones, iduot paeents letting their kids watch peppa pig at ear splitting volumes (seriously, have these people never heard of headphones?). Middlr age women filing their nails all over me. People shouting on their phones, pushing, shoving, farting.

The guy sitting in a corner quietly eating a sandwich was pretty inoffensive really.

Fannyupcrutch · 12/11/2015 10:14

Wasnt there a group on facebook, "women eating on trains"?

found it, was tubes!

www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2597596/Women-pictured-eating-Tube-strangers-bizarre-Facebook-group-urged-call-police-fell-threatened.html

PoppyBlossom · 12/11/2015 10:15

I think the important thing is not to impact on others. If you are hungry the yes eat, but choose something which will not impact on those who are sharing a confined area. That's just being a decent human being. Other people's senses shouldn't be abused because of your needs.

lorelei9 · 12/11/2015 10:17

saucy - that's why I think all food should be banned on tubes and buses.

the women eating thing was annoying because they were picking on women.

TempusEedjit · 12/11/2015 10:17

If I'm not in an official quiet carriage then it would be my right to have a very loud phone conversation or turn my iPad right up to listen to a movie if I wanted to. But I wouldn't do that because I'm not an inconsiderate shit. Not many are saying you can't eat at all on a train, just show some thought to those around you.

Why does the idea having a basic consideration for others bother some people so much?

LineyReborn · 12/11/2015 10:18

So in a restaurant, I need to check with all the other diners that they don't mind the smell of what I'm having?

BalthazarImpresario · 12/11/2015 10:18

Last train home from Waterloo I always have a maccy D's, essential to soak up the alcohol and stop me being sick (it's only that slow train that always make me feel ill)

BringMeTea · 12/11/2015 10:19

Eating generally fine. Eating stinky stuff, NO. Burgers etc particularly foul. I love a tuna sandwich myself but would never, ever have one on a train or plane or bus. See also eggs. It is selfish.

G1veMeStrength · 12/11/2015 10:20

I often eat on trains - if I don't eat something hot at the start of a journey I get quite travel sick.
Which I think is MUCH more antic social ;)

reni2 · 12/11/2015 10:21

It's certainly done a lot, so it is relatively normal.

I just wonder why people need to. Was there genuinely no 10 minute gap in that breathless program all day to eat? I wouldn't want to live that sort of life, but each to their own. Some people have a constant need to chew, like a ruminant. Why not eat something and then NOT eat for 6-8h? 2-3 meals, take at least 10 minutes to do it and do it at a table. I should stop there, showing my age Grin.

ArcheryAnnie · 12/11/2015 10:23

Well, the amount of food outlets at every train terminus in London makes me thing the train companies are expecting everyone to eat.

Normal manners apply: don't spray crumbs, don't leave your litter behind, don't make loud smacking noises and chew with your mouth open.

I hate McD's, yet would rather someone eat one of those next to me than put an iPad on with unmuted Peppa Pig....

stealthsquiggle · 12/11/2015 10:23

What BarbarianMum said.

Eating in the street was regarded as "common" by my Hyacinth Bucket grandmother and some of my teachers in the 80's.

From a purely practical perspective I prefer (for me and for my DC) to be somewhere where we can stop and sit down to eat. Trains fit that description perfectly. I wouldn't eat on a crowded tube train, but on a long distance train, absolutely - there are days when I wouldn't eat at all if I didn't eat on trains.

EcclefechanTart · 12/11/2015 10:24

I am "antisocial" and "inconsiderate" on the train every morning! No one has ever said anything to me about it in RL.

In the summer we often do several-days-long train trips, with perhaps two overnights on board. I'm not quite sure what would happen if we didn't eat on the train...

April2013 · 12/11/2015 10:24

I have often eaten my dinner on a train after working late to stop myself from feeling faint. Humans need to eat regularly and busy lives make eating in a dining room not always possible.

Damselindestress · 12/11/2015 10:25

I don't have a problem with people eating on trains and if other people do then they should complain to the train company, who encourage it by providing food, not the individual passenger. If someone has a busy working day and a long commute, it might be their only chance to grab a bite to eat.

TreadSoftlyOnMyDreams · 12/11/2015 10:26

Meh - so long as they take their rubbish with them I'm fine with it even if I don't appreciate the whiff. In an ideal world or France we'd all have the time for a sit down 3 course lunch but people are often rushing around.

The trouble is that people very frequently don't take it with them especially on the Tube [and there are no bins] so I'd happily ban eating on the Tube like they do on the Washington metro. It's horrible to have to negotiate someone's leftovers or spilled Coke all over the floor.

Hungry guide dogs are the least of your worries on London transport Grin

Banana's though and Red Bull. The smell of both of those in a confined space make me want to hurl. And people who've recently smoked. OMG

Where does one buy smelling salts these days out of interest?

TreadSoftlyOnMyDreams · 12/11/2015 10:27

Gah - bananas. No apostrophe required.

catfordbetty · 12/11/2015 10:27

I agree that really strong smelling food is a bit unpleasant in the confined space of a train carriage. Having said that, badly-behaved children are many times worse and probably just as frequently encountered.

reni2 · 12/11/2015 10:28

I know humans need to eat regularly, every 8h or so, 6 for some. I just wonder was there no gap other than on a moving train. Trains are filthy, I would eat on them only if it's an overnighter or something.

TempusEedjit · 12/11/2015 10:28

How the eff is someone eating smelly food on a train anything like choosing to go to a restaurant? I wouldn't take a dump on the train floor just because I use the loo in an appropriate place elsewhere!

HellonHeels · 12/11/2015 10:29

it's not OK to eat on the train if the train in question is a crammed morning rush hour tube and the food is a large waffle on a cardboard plate, covered in syrup and with a mountain of melting whipped cream on it and you are balanced precariously standing up in the middle of a crush of people. If that was you doing it a few months back you can fuck right off with that.

fastdaytears · 12/11/2015 10:29

There used to be signs everywhere about not eating didn't there. I think it's different on a long train journey to on a bus or tube.

But even on a longer journey I would love it if people shut their mouths and didn't chose the greasiest stinkiest food available. Then burn and leave their litter lying around.