I’ve been with DP for 2.5 years, the relationship is fab, we live together and everything is hunky dory.
DP is originally from up t’north and has relocated further south to where we are for work….which is how I met him.
He doesn’t go back ‘home’ that often, maybe 4 times a year? I tend to go back with him 1-2 times a year and the rest leave him to get on with it and meet up with family/ friends alone.
There is just one thing that has been niggling me lately…3 of his ‘best friends’ and their GF’s/ Fiancées, I have only met once in the 2 and a half years we’ve been together. 3 of his other friends and their partners, I’ve met numerous times and I see his family often, but I just feel that 2.5 years in, I have no idea who his friends from back home really are.
His best friend is getting married next September (DP is his best man) and the invite came through the other day, it doesn’t look like I’m invited, which is fair enough as I’ve only ever met them briefly, for about 30 mins once! But I do feel a bit weird and hurt about it…we’ve been together for 2.5 years!
The kick in the stomach was last night, when said couple who are getting married tagged my DP and a few other people in a wedding related post- one of the comments on this post was from DP’s ex. I admit I clicked on her profile and on her ‘friends’ list appeared loads of DP’s friends that I haven’t yet met but who he talks about all the time. To be fair, his ex is an ex from when he was still living up north and she lives in the area but still not from where DP and his friends are from (i.e, they were all new people to her too until she met my DP) DP was only with his ex for a year and I guess I just feel weird that, after 2.5 years and a pretty serious relationship and living together, I still haven’t really been properly introduced or met some important people in his life but his ex of 12 months clearly has?!
DP has met ALL my friends numerous times, we have a great social life with them and integrating him into my social circle has really helped him build a life here. I just feel a bit weird that he hasn’t made more of an effort to introduce me to some of the most important people in his life yet?!
In fairness, he is very close to his family and I have met parents, brother and sister and their respective partners numerous times as they come down here to visit us quite a lot and obviously we see them when we go back north too. It may just be a coincidence that DPs friends that I haven’t met have had plans the weekends that I’ve been down with DP, they are all busy people, I get that, but if it was me, and DP still hadn’t met my core best friends properly yet, I would be texting them and saying ‘I want to introduce XX to you properly as it’s been 2.5 years and it’d be good to all go for meal and drinks or something, are you guys free of a weekend at all over the next couple of months to get together?’
I am due on this week and feeling pretty blah so tbf, this could just be because of hormones, I never normally give it a second thought but when I saw last night that his ex was commenting on his friends posts, I admit, I felt jealous and foolish that she has been a part of their lives at some point and, after 2.5 years, I am a stranger to them.
AIBU, hormonal?! Honestly, feel free to give me a slap if you think it’s required.