aibu to be pissed off

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At people posting threads about how their child wakes up early or 'wont sleep through'. Ive got a 4 month old who wont sleep. I dont mean wont sleep through, i mean he literally wont sleep. Im going crazy! In the last 48hours hes slept less than 4 hours

That's not usual and I would contact your gp or HV today

DD didn't sleep at that age, it's a living nightmare. Does she have reflux or any other problem? See your HV they might be able to help you

*he sorry

That's crazy! The little dude (and you!) must be knackered!!!!

Go to the docs, something has to be going on for him not to be sleeping. I have a 4 month old too and he did 7pm to 1am, 2am to 5, and is snoozing on me now.

Good luck - sending you a large

4-month-olds are notoriously awful sleepers anyway, but sleeping only 4 hours in 48 is worth getting checked out for medical issues. You must be so tired

YANBU too. I remember someone talking about their "terrible sleeper" at around that age when their baby was waking - gasp! - twice a night, and having to actually walk away so I didn't lose it at them. (Mine was up to 16 wakeups a night at that point...)

You can be as pissed off as you like but having children who do not sleep long term is a firm of torture for some.

I say this as someone with a 10 month old who is a terrible sleeper. She doesn't just not sleep through, she still feeds 3-4 times per night and I am looking at the clock every hour at the moment. Granted she does have spells she sleeps better but it's never more than 3-4h in one go and she has never slept through. Add to this my toddler usually a brilliant sleeper thankfully has taking to night waking too (3 times between 3-5am last night) I am incredibly tired. This is a long term tiredness in my bones that will take more than a good night's sleep to shift.

So whilst I appreciate you are pissed off, please also appreciate how tough sleep deprivation is for everyone.

Is there someone who can have the baby and give you a few hours to catch up on some rest?

Yes i think il go docs. He used to wake 2 or 3 times which was copable, fine even but now its rediculus

You have my sympathy. Ds didn't sleep more than 4 hours in 24 for the first 5 years of his life and even now as an adult sleeps very little. I've no tips tbh because nothing worked with ds and medication made him worse. It nearly killed me so do ring round friends and family and enlist their help to sit with baby whilst you get some sleep.

Yes mil said she will take him for a bit so i can sleep which will be good, just do hard as i feel like such a failure, he actually seems worse around me, i.e grumpy as well, than anyone else, its like he doesnt like me

He doesn't dislike you. You aren't failing him. You are everything to him.

It is normal for babies' sleep to get worse at around 4 months (although your baby seems to be on the very extreme end of that so I do think it's worth getting him checked out). Their brains are changing rapidly, their sleep patterns are changing, and they can go through a really grouchy phase as well.

It's good that your MIL will take him for a bit to let you sleep. Is there anyone else you can lean on? Even if they only take him out in the pram for an hour, that's an hour for you to rest.

DH used to be the only one who could get DD to sleep, and even then he had to be constantly walking and rocking her so he had no sleep at all. He worked till 11pm so it was awful in the evening. I felt like it was something wrong with me but it's not, you're not a failure or a bad mother. He is grumpy with you because you are his entire world and he's taking comfort from you.

He definitely doesn't dislike you OP, you're his whole world, you're his Mummy! He can just get cross with you because he's tired and doesn't know how to self soothe. Try googling 4 month sleep regression - if anything it will help show that this phase will end.

I know it is really really bloody tough though. You are doing a great job, keep going and remember it's just a phase - that was my mantra with my second son who is generally described as a "spirited" child

It's great that your MIL can give you a break - sleep!!! Chin up

Thanks everyone

Aw bless, I have twins who both had reflux and those first months were unbelievably tough with little to no sleep.

I couldn't have survived if not for random relatives taking over for a couple of hours here and there.

Could you ask your mum to commit to a regular hour or two? Every other day or an hour each weekend day if she's still working? Having that oasis to look forward to was a life ring thrown into choppy waters for us.

Do you think he might have reflux? Always worth getting it checked out as it definitely made sleeping for our two very uncomfortable.

Mil has said she will take him every sunday evening and i cant wait! Yes looking forward to that few hours so i can sleep is going to be heaven! I did mention reflux but docs thinks he is fine, i think i will keep an eye on him and go back if im not happy

Roll on Sunday! You it'll be bliss, I remember those precious hours and the joy of snuggling down under the duvet and sinking into a peaceful guaranteed slumber
Enjoy :)