to be uncomfortable with ds going to friends house where parents smoke in the house?

[thefourgp]

I don't smoke. My dh smokes but always goes out into the back garden. My ds has made friends with someone at school but the child's parents smoke in the house and I'm not comfortable with that. I would never tell them not to smoke when he visits because it's their house and they can do as they please. I know a bit of second hand smoke once in a while isn't going to have any major affects but it still bugs me. How do others feel about this?

I find the car fumes argument irritating. You can not want to expose your children to smoke and still worry about the effect of car fumes, you don't have to pick one. Ideally we'd protect our children from both but protecting them from smoke is easy so we do that.

Also there are obviously lots of people who were around smoke all the time and lived. Those who didn't aren't here to shout about it. Everyone knows of a granny who smoked like a chimney and lived to a 100. Most won't. My aunt died of lung cancer in her 50s.

Yanbu to protect your children from an unpleasant smoky house.

As a nurse we were taught that smoking outside made little difference then smoking inside as the chemicals are in your hair and on your skin so no different but it makes people feel less guilty.

A one off to a friends house is a hell of a lot less harmful than them seeing their dad smoke outside or in.

Not judging you op it's a bugger of a habit but reality.

I wouldn't have a problem with it. In my view the friendship is more important than the very minimal risks involved, and ideally that means both kids being in each other's homes at times. But you have to make decisions based on what's most important to you.