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AIBU?

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To ask how physically comfortable you are? In your body and in your home?

25 replies

Onewomanshow · 06/11/2015 22:38

Been mulling this over this evening. I'm not really comfortable, and it's quite stressful.

My skin is very sensitive and feels fucking horrendous. It's currently dried out and is like sand paper, it burns and stings no matter how gently I try to look after it. I have a chronic pain condition, which I manage as well as possible but well days like today get me down a bit. I need to go to the dentist to sort out my teeth. I also should tackle my fitness as I'm seriously unfit.

My home isn't exactly an oasis of comfort. It's rented and needs repairs etc and I don't feel I have anywhere to completely physically relax.

Basically, I'm a mess and have no idea which area to work on first

Are you comfortable in your body? And can you relax in your home environment?

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IrritableBitchSyndrome · 06/11/2015 22:40

Not comfortable either, pretty much ever! Although I was for a while a couple of weeks ago. It was wonderful.

AlwaysHope1 · 06/11/2015 22:48

I think I fairly am, probably more as I think I keep 'on top' of things. I make sure I take time out to get personal stuff done weekly. I know it's hard to find the motivation and time, but when it becomes a routine you just sort of get used to it.

Louise43210 · 06/11/2015 22:49

Work on the cheapest first! :-)

Hassled · 06/11/2015 22:52

I'd say the home is the easiest to fix - why can't you relax? Do you mean physical comfort, as in a comfy chair, or overcrowdedness etc?

And see a dentist - toothache is bloody awful, and not the sort of pain you can ignore/get used to. Is it worth seeing someone re your skin - what does your GP say?

ghostyslovesheep · 06/11/2015 22:53

Very comfortable in my home (moved in 3 months ago - did major renovations and now it feels 110% mine and lovely)

My body - not so much - gone from a 6/8 at 25 to a 14 at 45 (3 kids, thyroid, wine) and I feel cumbersome and fat (I am short) but I am fit - I work out hard 3 times a week and run a lot - I am trying very hard to like my body

I have a very sensitive scalp and I totally sympathise with the pain - My head HURTS and it itchy and I don't like that

marzipancustard · 06/11/2015 22:54

I have chronic conditions & pain - I try not to think about it tbh I've found that focusing on the positives helps distract me. But one of my positives is having a quiet relaxing bedroom to retreat to '- maybe see what's possible for you to create something similar.

NeuNewNouveau · 06/11/2015 22:58

Not so comfortable in my body but I am fortunate that my house is very comfortable.

SaltMarshPirate · 06/11/2015 23:00

I have to say, this resonates with me. I have found my physical surroundings have a massive impact on my emotional well being. We are having work done and the mess has overwhelmed me. My body is better than the house, but it's a close run thing. My skin was exactly as you said, OP. I used, the very cheap, E45 intensive recovery cream. It really helped.
Are you a long term tenant? You can ask for repairs to be done.
I'm sorry you feel sad and that you are in pain.

Crazypetlady · 06/11/2015 23:05

Not comfortable with any of it. My hair and house is a mess and unhomely and I feel fat although i have lost 11lbs in three weeks recently it isn't enough. DS is five months he screams as soon as i put him down and our carrier is not working for us. He won'y nap unless held and won't sleep until 11 its a struggle at the minute. He is worth it all though.

arethereanyleftatall · 06/11/2015 23:05

Yes and yes. 100% comfortable with both.
Make a list, tackle one thing at a time.

TheBouquets · 06/11/2015 23:07

At first I thought this was such a strange question but I get it now.
The body is very uncomfortable. I have several painful conditions. I am overweight again but had gone down to very slim. It was not comfortable to be that slim with bones sticking out. There is no pleasing us ladies.
I am not very comfortable in my house. It is a decent enough house but it is in a location which brings out a lot of distress in the memories. The furniture and household items are comfortable and sufficient.
Life is not very comfortable. Absent friends. Wishes I have not fulfilled.
I really must try to improve my life or my attitude to my life.

KatieLatie · 06/11/2015 23:10

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Doobigetta · 06/11/2015 23:16

Not comfortable in my body right now, as I've got a hideous stinking cold. My home is comfortable though, and I am very happy in it.

hollieberrie · 06/11/2015 23:17

Oh OP, poor you, i think pick 1 or 2 from your list and tackle them and then move onto something else. Otherwise its overwhelming. Maybe start with dentist and just making 1 room in your house cosy and exactly how you'd like it?

I really need to go to the dentist too. And sort out my allergies / sinus congestion. I am skinny but I know i'm not healthy and my sleep is terrible. Too many coffees and ciggies :(

bettyberry · 06/11/2015 23:30

Comfy on my sofa? hell no. It gives me a numb fecking arse.
in my body? mostly. Only thing I hate is my gut. I can be naked and comfortable which isn't bad for a size 16/18 when you are supposed to hate your body.
MY house? no. Its chaos, not enough room and I work from home. There is stuff everywhere and I've fallen out of love with it.

BillBrysonsBeard · 07/11/2015 00:47

Very comfy in my home.. It's small but cosy! I spend a lot of time here so wanted to make it my paradise. It's nice to look around and see bits of your personality in what you've chosen.. Makes it feel like an extension of you.
Body.. Only when a size 14 or less. Otherwise feel very cumbersome and self conscious. Currently a 14 at the mo so feel okay.

HicDraconis · 07/11/2015 06:17

Extremely comfortable with both my body (overweight, saggy and currently a bit bruised) and my home (untidy, laundry backed up, housework a bit behind).

I have an arthritic right hip which pisses me off occasionally though.

Mostly I think my general feeling of content comes from being comfortable with who I am. Everything else is just stuff. My home is my home no matter how untidy it is. My body is my body whether it's aching, itching, overweight or not (have been both). Who I am is who I want to be is who I am striving to become a better version of - and all comfortable with that.

Need a new sofa though, my neck kills me after an evening of TV!

Sansoora · 07/11/2015 06:23

Im not comfortable in my body at all but now that my head'n'heart is sorted out Im starting on my body this week. My SIL, a Dr, with a personal interest in nutrition and fitness has sorted me out nutrition wise and Ive signed up at a Gym for Yoga and personal training sessions suitable for a woman at the back end of her 50's. I plan in two years time to be everything a woman of 60 can be health and fitness wise. My mum died when she was just a year older than I am now and its only now I realise how young she was to die.

How comfortable am I at home? Very. But I feel that at my age I should be or what would years have gone by been for?

TheDowagerCuntess · 07/11/2015 06:32

That sounds tough OP, you'd hope to be comfortable/happy with at least one.

Yes to both for me.

confusedandemployed · 07/11/2015 06:47

Comfy in my body since losing nearly 2 stone on 5:2. Still more to go but now I am toned and muscular so the extra weight is not obvious.
Not so comfy in my house. Moved in nearly 2 years ago but still so much more to do! Tackling it room by room. Bathroom next.

Dachshund · 07/11/2015 06:47

Currently comfortable in neither as I'm lying on our cheap shitty mattress from Argos that DP and I have had for the past 6 years and I can feel every spring... I'm also 39 weeks and so so uncomfortable.

However, this thread is really thought provoking. I have done a lot of work on our home in preparation for the baby and it has been transformed relatively cheaply into somewhat of a haven for me so yes, I'm generally comfortable here (just not in bed!)

As far as in myself, pre pregnancy I had struggled for years with low self esteem, and dedicated a lot of effort towards trying to maintain a low BMI. I'm hopeful that after the baby I will have more respect for my body and treat myself better. I'm having a girl and I would hate for her to grow up feeling ugly like I did.

Tootsiepops · 07/11/2015 06:49

38 weeks pregnant and really, really bloody uncomfortable!

Eminybob · 07/11/2015 06:55

for you op, your health issues sound awful.

I am not comfortable in my body at the moment. Since I had DC I have gained weight and have an overhanging belly. I hate the way it feels when I'm sat down, I can never get comfy and I'm dead self conscious of it. I am on a mission to lose weight at the moment but I'm worried I'll always have this overhang.

I also don't like the way my face looks. I thought I was reasonably attractive in my teens and twenties but I have definitely lost my looks as I've gotten older. My nose seems bigger and I hate my hair but never seem to have time to get it done.

I'm reasonably comfortable in my home as long as I keep on top of the housework, but the kitchen is always cluttered and scruffy and I feel self conscious about having people over sometimes.

Wow, I hadn't reallly thought about how I feel about this stuff before. I do have lots of other stuff in my life I am really happy about though.

Jengnr · 07/11/2015 07:02

I'm mostly comfortable in my body. I have about three stone to lose but that's a problem for another day.
Thanks to children and general rubbishness we've allowed ourselves to get a bit overtaken by clutter, which has been getting me down but I've taken a few small steps to combat this this week and I'm really amazed by the difference it's made. I intend to enlist the help of my Dad this week to do a couple more things and I think I might have a nice house again.

Sidalee7 · 07/11/2015 09:02

I have a small cottage and I always feel like I need to be having s good clear out - lots of books ect. My dc's bedrooms are small and a bit poky.

But it is pretty and cosy (I have to have the heating on) and it's a nice place to curl up on the sofa watching a film.

I love my bedroom too, love taking a cuppa up to bed, so cosy.

In my body - I have good health but at the moment have a horrid stye - linked to tiredness and stress. But on the whole pretty lucky.

Great thread!

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