My problems are so much worse than yours!

[Fratelli]

Aibu to hate this attitude? On the whole my oh is great. We did have a patch where he was extremely lazy with housework and lo. As in he did nothing. He's over that now but occasionally can be a bit lazy.

Sometimes I needed/need to just vent if I'm tired or something to friends or online. On another site on my birth board too many times I get maybe 2 supportive people but the rest say things like "that's nothing, my oh hasn't done anything since dc was born". Or "I haven't had a lay in for 3 years". Or (my favourite) "think yourself lucky your oh does anything at all". Why should I feel lucky for that? I'm grateful for everything he does for us as he is for everything I do. But I think this should be the norm rather than having to feel lucky. I have a friend in rl who is like that too.

Aibu to hate this attitude? And to think that being lazy shouldn't have to be acceptable in my relationship just because it is in other's?

Elevenerife! Love it.
I said to someone once i had been to a food court in a large mall for a coffee. She sniffed and said ' never go there, only m and s cafe or waitrose one' its off topic a lot, but 'one upmanship ' is some people's forte and same goes for 'my problems are worse than your ones' .
They are usually totally self absorbed individuals who can never believe your woes are as bad and have the knack of making you feel inadequate for any choices you make for almost anything! ( if its not john lewis, m and S, granite worktops its all rubbish! ) i never mention my trips to pound world. (I can see the 'quality' lasts analogy, but just stop going on about it. I do get it, i just cant afford it! )
I just nod and smile now.

I don't know anyone close to me in rl, but it drives me mad on here when someone wants to vent about dm/mil/gp and someone pipes up.... "Atleast you have a dm/mil" "Atleast your dc have gp" like you're not allowed to vent/rant!

Ooh I totally agree this is so annoying, personally I reckon there are two types, those that genuinely mean to show empathy and get it a bit wrong and those who really are insanely self involved and have to one up you.

I know I'm not always great at social cues so suspect I occasionally fall into bracket one

But my dm..... Good lord.... It's impossible to have, do or say anything she has not had worse, done better etc etc. It's a running joke now with DH and I .... I amen back from a consultant appt earlier about obstetric cholestasis and told DH I was ringing dm to update (long story but it was relevant to let her know) and DH laughed and said "yep and her liver will have got up , walked to Timbuktu and become hairless "

He was slightly off lol but I did get a diatribe on how difficult it was for her that I was having a difficult pregnancy lololol

DH and I are now planning to play mum bingo when I speak to her lol

Lol mum bingo! I do agree though some people genuinely try to be helpful. You can usually tell them apart though! There are just some people who if my dog has 5 legs theirs has 6!