to be annoyed about his comment regarding sex with me?

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I've recently had sex for the first time with the man that I'm dating.

I've had no strings fun sex that means nothing to me before and I'll just go for it and not give a damn but when its someone I like (in a relationship or heading that way) I can be a little nervous during the first time.

He's coming over tomorrow and we were talking about sex and he said - do you have some lube because you were really tight last time.

He made a similar comment twice before too - about me being tight.

This has never been an issue for me ever before.

Now I just feel super self-conscious and down about it.

I once had sex with a bloke who got really offended when I asked if we could use some lube. He was flabbergasted as to why as in his words I was 'soaking wet'. It wasn't about how turned on I was (I was plently turned on) but I think the comments here saying its all the mans fault if the woman isnt sufficiently wet enough are out of order. Anyway I it wasnt about that; it was simply that he was a bit big and/or I was a bit tight and it would have been more pleasurable with a little lube.

The TL:DR is that IMO you and the guy in my story were both being overly sensitive.

I would RUN. Seriously he sounds like a tosser. .imagine saying that to you! Sounds a bit Alan Partridge to me and of course expecting you to buy some lube makes him to be even more of an arse! Get rid.

Unless its due to peri menopausal issues of dryness or him being large, or no chemistry, he hasnt sufficiently aroused you. Did you feel that turned on, has he asked you what 'does it' for you re getting turned on. To their credit, the men I most enjoyed sex with all asked me up front before it got to sex, 'what really 'sends' you' ... and after that it was always mutually open and enjoyable. The few who didn't ... well, not good tbh. That approach might not work for everyone but i found it worked for me.