Court order!!

[Whattheactualeff]

not really an aibu, but hoping for traffic as really need some support.

Basically I split with my ex a year ago due to DV and he has been arrested and cautioned since due to death threats and harassment.
He's now threatening to take me to court (albeit through a third party as he isn't allowed to directly contact me) for access to our 1 year old.
Thing is I've never actually denied him access? He gets regular updates via email and plenty of offers for supervised contact due to his anger problems, SS have said he's not to see her unsupervised. And tbh, no court order in the world would make me leave my 1 year old on her own with him.
Can he even take me to court as I haven't actually denied him any access?
I feel they are empty threats as he is in the military and is due a long deployment soon so wouldn't have the time?

Aibu to be a bit worried?

keep records of all this stuff and whoever it was who contacted you on his behalf, block them. You don't deserve this harrassment. Good to pass on all of this to your solicitor. gGreat you are strong enuf to set yourself and your dd free. Stay strong ,op.

Thank you. I really don't feel very strong at the minute. Couldn't even leave the house today. I still haven't heard back from my solicitor yet so am just sitting around really waiting for something to happen. Whether it be he turns up at my house and I have to call the police, anther abusive phone all or court letters through the post...

Two other kids he doesn't see as well? Believe me he will not be bothering with yours either. He's one of those whiny, pathetic men who like to stamp their feet and play the part of "father of the decade separated from their adored kids by bitch ex." There's a lot of them about. My ex was never prevented from seeing our kids but if we ever disagreed about anything would start wailing about how "no one is keeping me from my kids!" When no such thing had ever been suggested. I think its almost as if they want to be so they can play the victim.

He's off on deployment as well is he? All good. I would put it out of your head. He may well come back and start making demands and then he may well get an hour in a contact centre, which he will probably attend twice, if that.

The twins could be his or the girls boyfriends kids but EX is not willing to find out and I think the girl is happy that EX doesn't want to as she knows what he's really like. (He sexually harassed her for months after she ended things with him). I really hope this all blows over. There's no way I could let him take my little girl even if a court order him too. Then I would be the one in trouble.