Should men post on mumsnet ?

[jaffacake2]

Just wondering what other people think about men posting on mumsnet. I have been reading threads which men have contributed to and some are very funny but some are slightly concerning.
The man who wrote about his disastrous OLD was very amusing. It was great to read about awful dates from a male perspective. But there was also a sex thread about whether it was unreasonable to be asked to just show your boobs so your partner can masturbate regularly. The thread was going well until a man joined giving his personal thoughts on needs of men. The thread slowed and I felt that women had been intimidated by his opinions. Maybe not but would welcome a discussion about men being onsite.
Perhaps it should be renamed people net rather than mumsnet

[NaughtToThreeSadOnions]

There are a couple of posters who only show up on certain threads about sex. They never contribute to any other threads. Thankfully it's a minority..

Thing is because of the very nature of the sex board posters may not want their more regular name which may give a clue to who they are both in real life and their mums net identity so they have a different name spefically for the sex board while continuing to post under their normal on other threads!

[beefthief]

usual - you've changed your tune from "they all...", to "a couple". Which is it? And I was under the impression that people name change in there, is this an incorrect assumption, that these posters may well be all over the rest of the forums under another name.

[Funinthesun15]

I think it would be weird to say that men aren't 'allowed' to post, but I do find it a bit odd that they do? Non parents as well I guess

Why shouldn't people who aren't parents post? I came here looking for support never posted though when my baby died and then subsequent miscarriages.

So should I piss off now in your eyes just because I'm no longer 'a parent' in fact I am also one of those dreaded things called a SP too

[Quiero]

Nope, there are definitely a couple of creepy posters who crawl out onto sex threads. It's nothing to do with name changing.

[CerseiLannistersEyebrow]

I'm fine with dads posting. I'd prefer other men not to. There's plenty of other forums. It'd be nice for women to have some space to ourselves.

[Shutthatdoor]

I'm fine with dads posting. I'd prefer other men not to

Firstly why dad's and not non dad's when you don't seem to want to police women in the same way and secondly you do realise that you could never actually tell.

[SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius]

If dads are posting, though, it isn't going to be an all-female space, though, is it? So why exclude other men who want to post?

[Chippednailvarnish]

I couldn't careless what sex posters are and if you did try to discourage men you would just have men pretending to be women.

[MrsTerryPratchett]

In short, as long as you accept it's mumsnet and not reddit, crack on.

There is something special about Mumsnet and as far as I can tell most of the men who post regularly know this too. Places take on their own culture, which isn't to do with the name or the stated ethos. Is there any real reason NM is like it is and MN is like it is? It's just become that way.

Policing things with mods rarely works. Chasing the fuckwits off threads with pitchforks and barbed comments seems to.

[DriverSurpriseMe]

I question the motives of a man who joins an overwhelmingly female site. Why not let women have their own space?

Invariably, the men who make a name for themselves end up having threads devoted to them asking for their advice/opinion on some sort of "male" topic. Then he wades in to help the little women out. I guess that is part of the appeal.

I've seen it on other female forums too, not just MN.

[Enjolrass]

Why not let women have their own space

This isn't a 'women's space' though is it?

Or can we claim it is as mainly women post?

[Enjolrass]

I'm fine with dads posting. I'd prefer other men not to.

I assume that means you don't like women who don't have kids posting as well?

[WindyMillersProbationOfficer]

The men on the sex board are creepy, the men on the FWR board are (with a few exceptions) irritating. The men elsewhere I can't say I especially pick up on, apart from the 'AS A MAN...' posts which occasionally pop up.

[Nottodaythankyouorever]

I question the motives of a man who joins an overwhelmingly female site. Why not let women have their own space?

What exactly are you questioning?

It is a parenting site. It says so in the title.

Last time I checked men are also parents.

[WorraLiberty]

I question the motives of a man who joins an overwhelmingly female site. Why not let women have their own space?

Perhaps we don't all want or need our 'own space'.

Whatever that is on the internet anyway...

[Quiero]

There used to be a prevalent male poster who had a kind of harem of sycophants hanging of his every word. That used to piss me off. He was no funnier or knowledgable than many other posters but was definitely treated differently because he was a man.

I don't think this should be a space for women. I do think women should feel safe here though and free from the vicious trolling women and particularly feminists face elsewhere on the Internet. Luckily we look out for each other pretty darn well and keep that shit off the boards.

[velourvoyageur]

Of course


But 9/10 if I come across a post and think it's written by a man it later turns out I'm right. And yeah that's not a compliment.
Sorry, that sounds so awful. I do like men and know lots of brilliant people who happen to be male. But I have noticed the above.

[SauvignonBlanche]

I don't see it as a problem at all.

[velourvoyageur]

Yes Andrew and Vienna are good eggs :)

[DriverSurpriseMe]

Yes, this is a parenting site, and parents of both sexes are welcome nottoday, but that doesn't change the fact that it's an overwhelmingly female site, and I wonder what the appeal is.

There used to be a prevalent male poster who had a kind of harem of sycophants hanging of his every word. That used to piss me off. He was no funnier or knowledgable than many other posters but was definitely treated differently because he was a man

This is exactly the type of thing I noticed on another female forum.

[EvansOvalPiesYumYum]

I like it when men post - gives another viewpoint.

Some dickhead men post sometimes, but stupid women post too. Although this is 'Mumsnet' - it is a public forum, therefore, anyone can post. Mums, Dads, Grannies, Grandads, single people who are neither Mums nor Dads, childminders, anyone in the teaching or childcare/healthcare professions.

I think this is not a 'Mums-only' forum, despite it's name, and everyone is welcome to post their point of view.

[Nottodaythankyouorever]

Yes, this is a parenting site, and parents of both sexes are welcome nottoday, but that doesn't change the fact that it's an overwhelmingly female site, and I wonder what the appeal is.

Because men get cheated on, men have children, men get divorced, men like chatting just about 'stuff'.

Why does there have to be an 'appeal'.

Women can be trolls etc just as easily and just as nastily as men can.

[WorraLiberty]

There are a few female posters who people accuse of having 'sycophants' too, so I really don't see what it has to do with being male.