Should men post on mumsnet ?

[jaffacake2]

Just wondering what other people think about men posting on mumsnet. I have been reading threads which men have contributed to and some are very funny but some are slightly concerning.
The man who wrote about his disastrous OLD was very amusing. It was great to read about awful dates from a male perspective. But there was also a sex thread about whether it was unreasonable to be asked to just show your boobs so your partner can masturbate regularly. The thread was going well until a man joined giving his personal thoughts on needs of men. The thread slowed and I felt that women had been intimidated by his opinions. Maybe not but would welcome a discussion about men being onsite.
Perhaps it should be renamed people net rather than mumsnet

[ThenLaterWhenItGotDark]

Oh and the grossest yackiest sex threads tend to be by woman.

And a fair few of them turn out to be bridge dwellers.

[Trills]

As a not-mum, it's nice to see mostly sense being spoken on this thread.

[SmillasSenseOfSnow]

How do you know posters are male!

A lot of the more 'arseholey' ones tend to make their entrance to a thread with a post involving something along the lines of

'Hello ladies, bloke here, here's a male perspective to solve this conundrum for you'

or

'My DW loves it when I [blank] and I love it when she [blanks]', when no-one has fucking asked.

[IKnowIAmButWhatAreYou]

And yes I am a woman as some posters seem to question that.

Prove it....

Until you do that you're the same as the rest of the posters on here - you could be either sex & in general, unless someone has a username stating they're male or states it, it's not obvious at all.

[TiggyD]

[WorraLiberty]

How exactly does someone 'parade in' to a chat forum?

Honestly, I think some people take this website far too seriously.

It's a public forum, not a private gathering.

[IamtheZombie]

Nice one, Tiggy.

Yes, Worra, PUBLIC being the operative word.

[WorraLiberty]

[NaughtToThreeSadOnions]

No useal and Saipan I'm seriously defensive on mumsnet I don't like hypocrisy!

I don't like mumsnet being hacked, abused being called bitter old middle age crones, It would be hypocritical to there for let another website be abused in the same way!

[TiggyD]

[BuggersMuddle]

I don't have kids. I stumbled across MN when a friend who does have kids linked to a particularly funny thread (which I think is now in Classics).

The reason I read it? Well I'm a professional in my mid-30s, so a lot of general online forums are not aimed at me. This feels like a better 'fit', despite the fact I don't have children.

As others have said upthread, I have relationships; a career; sporting interests; like style and beauty. I tend not to post on parenting posts unless I have experience of the situation from another perspective (as a child, close family with similar situation etc.).

There isn't another site that really fits with my demographic. It also seems like plenty of other people without kids, ttc or kids long flown the nest post. We all have different perspectives and it's interesting to get a mix IMO.

[Jasonandyawegunorts]

Dr Frankenstien was pretty equal, he created both man and woman at least in the universal movie series.

[BathshebaDarkstone]

Ah Tiggy I've always liked you!

[BaronessEllaSaturday]

I'm a male vampire who doesn't have any children then again I may be a middle aged mother of 4 who is scared of the dark but does it really matter if I'm an asshole I'm an asshole irrespective of my other characteristics.

[Bumbledumb]

I came here when my DW was pregnant with our DS. I found a lot of interesting topics and interesting people posting, and just stuck around. There are more female than male voices here, and that is part of the appeal.

[WorraLiberty]

Warty Broiler is my stripper name!

[BuggersMuddle]

It's a bummer that you don't like vampires though. Guess I better go elsewhere...

[BillyDaveysDaughter]

I don't have children of my own, only step children. I'm a woman. I love MN as a riotous, laugh out loud, time wasting read. Don't post often. Love to hear male perspective. Find trolls, twats and goady fuckers entertaining in equal measure regardless of gender. I can switch off and forget them whenever I want, it's just the stupid Internet.

[DramaAlpaca]

Some of my favourite posters on MN are men.

I have no problem at all with men being on here as long as my DH isn't

[BetaVersion]

I suspect an awful lot of men find MN when they are googling about TTC, baby stuff, school stuff - but never actually post anything.

Its a good thing. Wish I had found it earlier.

[justgoandgetalife]

Think MN should be required reading for lots of men. They'd understand women much better if they did!

[Masterpiece1]

I think you would be surprised by the amount of men hiding on here...

[DontStopBelievin]

Of course men should be able to post. I don't have an issue with that at all. Just because it's named Mumsnet, doesn't mean only mums can post. Anyone can.
Men are parents too, right? So of course they should feel welcome to come onto a parenting forum and discuss relevant issues.
You can get idiots in either gender. You wouldn't think "ban all women!" or "ban all non mums!" from here, would you if somebody behaved appallingly, so why should you think the same when it comes to men?

[NameChange30]

"You can get idiots in either gender. You wouldn't think "ban all women!" or "ban all non mums!" from here, would you if somebody behaved appallingly, so why should you think the same when it comes to men?"

This is a fair point, but there is an issue with male idiots that isn't quite as prevalent with female idiots or non-parents. It's that some men (note I said some, not all) think that their opinion is more valid than a woman's opinion. Some men give advice to women despite never having experienced being in their position, and not being able or willing to understand what it's like. In a patriarchal society, some men lack respect for women, and if those men want to post here, that's a problem.

Of course, the problem isn't their gender, it's their lack of respect. But I can understand the suspicion when patriarchy creates a correlation between the two.

[vienna1981]

velourvoyager. Thankyou for your support .