to think it is a bit bleugh to share a Facebook profile with your DH /DP?

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Saw a shared Faebook profile page the other day and it made me go yuk! But maybe I'm bitter and twisted that I don't have anybody to share a profile with (!) But really I'm definitely too much of my own person to share Facebook or even a email account with anybody.

I hate the shared profile too as well as those who only define themselves by the fact they have spawned.

We have a joint email but it's for things like online shopping accounts /the joint bank account /utilities that are all done via email. We have our own (multiple) personal ones for normal emails/ our own accounts etc (eg my credit cards and next account, forum sign ups, friends . Dp does the same to)

I know a couple with a shared FB page. One of them is a teacher in the school local to them so he doesn't have his own page as it's just easier. They are not clingy to each other or gushing on the page to each other at all. It is used by her mainly but he does put a few things on.

I do understand why they do it but as a rule I would find it weird though as there is really no need.

I don't see the problem, unless there are issues of control/abuse. It's a social media site, there are no right or wrong ways of doing things (I may be corrected by people who better understand FB's rules on identity).

It may be cringe worthy along with other examples given up-thread but doesn't that come with the territory?

If you have no way of contacting someone privately then I could see cause for concern but FB is hardly the be all and end all of contact methods. People were (and still do) sharing postal addresses and home phone numbers long before social media was invented and I'm sure we all found ways of getting in touch privately back then! Send a text, call, arrange to meet, email their personal address if they have one?

Id say older grandparents are dofferent too. My mum is in her 70s and has had teo accounts that she cant accrss as she doesnt remember her password. Her email address was created just for facebook and she has no idea of the address or password of that either. My dad is in his 60s and uses his a fee Times a week to view family pages and photos we post. It would make far more sense for his profile to be joint so people could talk to my
Mum via it.

Hate shared email accounts for reasons bleugh but also if you're trying to reach one of the parties and the email is marked read how do they know the right person got it???? Unless you have absolutely no separate social life AT ALL....don't know any joint Facebook accounts but couples with the same profile picture. Feels very fogey-ish and controlling....

I hate shared FB accounts, I recently removed someone I met through my hobby on FB. Originally it was his account then his wife took it over and changed the name of it to both names, apparently she couldn't be bothered to create her own account. I was fed up of messaging him about the hobby and getting "friends busy right now, this is wife can I pass on a message?"

I also hate those that add "Mummy" Or "Childsnamemummy" to their account name, nothing says "I've lost my identity since having a child" more than this. I also hate it when people change their jobs to "Full Time Mummy" yes it's a full time job, yes it's hard, but it just makes me cringe.

Maybe they are soulmates who love each other to the moon and back and all that shit

YANBU, it is creepy and weird.

I had a friend who shared her email address with her husband. When I asked her about it, she said they had decided to merge their email accounts when they got married because 'we are as one'.

I have never yet seen a shared Facebook page and I think it's quite odd.

BalthazarImpresario - We do the same. Our personal emails are what we use 98% of the time, but the joint email is the one we use for household bills, emailing the landlord, etc.

Means we can both access household stuff without having to forward or copy multiple emails. We've never used it to correspond with our friends, family, or work though.

it's just not right or decent....it's not like they are on ration. ...I mean I have at least five active emails

I think badly of anyone who participates in shared personal emails or fbs
....elderly GPs aside....somehow that is quite cute :D

We don't use social media but we have a joint email address. We live in an extremely remote location in South America and DH has severe dyslexia - he asked me to set up a joint address and then relay any info, he also dictates emails to me when a blue moon appears he wants to send one. It works for us .
That being said we don't have mobile phones of our own, we just have a few in different coloured cases and DH, our foreman, me etc just grab one on their way out of the door and note on the whiteboard which colour they have so everyone knows how to get hold of them.

My auntie and uncle do this. They both want to see what family are doing but auntie us a head teacher so didn't want her own fb page. They just initial at the end of their posts and comments. People use fb for a variety of reasons, really unfair to suggest controlling relationship based on fb.

Oh dh and I have separate email and fb but know each other's log ins and I've been known to ask dh to log in to get an email I need. Don't have any secrets. Although I can't remember what his log ins are at the moment but he has told me.

I see it only in partners where one doesn't trust the other/ both

My teacher friend also shares her husband's account and I think it's lovely. A great example of the trust that should exist in a marriage. They are a really nice couple too.

I HATE this, it's usually really young couples that do it! The other bug bearer is 'manager at full time yummy mummy' makes me throw up

I know some of the older generation who have shared FB. Usually because one is a technophobe and it's to see their grandchildren!

Younger people makes me think eh?

DH and I share an email account for anything that we both may need to look at - like bills and joint banking stuff. We also have personal email addresses.

I don't see why having a joint social media account is any different from having a joint bank account. I know lots of people who have several FB profiles, particularly if they run their own business that uses social media. They often have a 'public' account and a 'private' account that only close friends have access to.

I, personally, have a FB account which is not in my own name and doesn't have a profile picture of me. I use it for being a member of groups. A bit like MN, it's about protecting my anonymity.

I find lots of things about FB 'bleurgh', but this isn't one of them.

DP and I don't share any acounts or emails.

I prefer it that way.

The only people I know of with shared accounts set up their email addresses back last century

We have a shared email address for exactly this historical reason. It was the late 90s - email was a whole new world. At the time it didn't seem any different than having a shared landline number at home (this was well before either of us had a mobile).

We use it for household stuff or joint emails where it would seem odd to send from one or other of our separate email accounts.

It never occurred to me that people would find it odd [shrug]

I'm not on facebook, but do have a shared email address with dp. We set it up in the 90s not long after we'd moved in together. We bought ourselves a PC, and it took us ages to get our heads round the internet. Neither of us had ever used email before and we never even thought about having separate email addresses.

We've both got our own work email addresses, but I can't see the point of setting up separate personal addresses. It's too much hassle. I've got more than enough usernames and passwords to remember already.When I look at my inbox I can see from the sender/topic if it's a family email, if it's meant for me or if it's meant for dp.

On the other hand, as we'd both had our own bank accounts for years before getting together we kept those and have never (even after 20+ years) bothered getting a joint account.

My friend does this and it's her profile really. Her husband is in the army so I just assumed he wasn't allowed his own page.

Shared FB pages are beyond weird. I don't think they're 'bleurgh' as such, I just think they smack of not being your own person.
Like you don't trust your partner and feel you need to be in their account, and also that you don't think of yourself as being your own person.
Both DH and myself are on FB, there's no way I'd want to share a page though. I'm me. He's him. We're allowed separate accounts and to know different people.
Just seems such a controlling and thing to do and that you have no sense of self and identity.