Boyfriend and I have been together for a year, and we are looking for a place of our own in January once his contact on his current flat runs out
He currently shares a house with his ex girlfriend and her boyfriend of around 18 months (he has his own flat but spends the vast majority of time in their shared flat, brings his washing to the flat etc) his ex girlfriend does have a mental health problem with a diagnosis and does seem to be in a manic phase at the moment but is managing to go to college and do a course a couple of days per week.
My problem is that every time we go to cook something it involves cleaning everything in the flat, flat mate and her boyfriend don't clean anything up and in order to have a clean environment to cook In you need to wash everything I have done this for weeks, I know it is boyfriends flat and he does do some cleaning when he is here (he works full time running his own company so often has 12-18 hour days) but I am sick of having to wash everything in order to cook a meal
Boyfriend tells me I shouldn't and to only wash what I need but in order the clean the worktops and cooker to be used everything needs moving so once that's been done you may as well have washed the damn things to start with. Boyfriend says he has done everything to sort this situation and now doesn't bother and that I shouldn't either but the kitchen literally makes me feel sick and I've ended up tonight (after cleaning for over an hour) telling him that I won't be back to stay over unless he sorts this out, he tells me he's tried and that even if he says anything it'll only change for a couple of days
Am I wrong to feel so frustrated and angry? It isn't for much longer until we get our own place but this is a huge issue for me and right now we aren't even speaking Sorry it's so long