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Really petty argument aibu

25 replies

Saladeeta · 29/10/2015 19:55

Sorry this is incredibly petty. Dh has taken lots of batteries out of things to fit in other things as we have run out. I asked him if he could just sort it and buy some batteries so that the remote controls, thermometer etc were working. He said he would. 2 weeks later and DC has a raging temp and I can't find the bat to check. Finally find some and it's 39.6. Call 111. Dh takes them out in the mean time for the remote control. I need to check temp again when clinician calls back. I say look could you do what you said and just buy some batteries and fix all the things different ones have come out? He gets angry about how I have looked at him, tells me I'm a mean bully and says why haven't I sorted it out. I say, because you said you'd do it. He says, well you do it then, I'm going to bed. I buy some on amazon. I then tried to talk to him, to say I didn't feel that was OK. He tells me to leave him alone.
Is this a usual conversation between 2 adults? Should I have just bought them? I do most of the remembering and organising and feel as though if he said he would do something, he should just do it and not be so arsey when mildly pulled up on it.

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Mysteryfla · 29/10/2015 19:56

How old is he 12?

pinotblush · 29/10/2015 19:57

He's a self entitled twat.

Bet this isn't the only "Im the king of the castle" thing he does either.

Saladeeta · 29/10/2015 19:58

No, its not. Sigh. I'm just so tired of it.

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molyholy · 29/10/2015 19:59

Yanbu but you know he wasn't going to buy them, so I would have just got some. But he is bvvvvu to take the batteries out the dc's thermometer. I would have been fucking fuming at that.

clam · 29/10/2015 20:01

I would be extremely pissed off that he thought it OK to remove the batteries from the fucking thermometer during a medical "emergency." Especially as it appears he wanted them for the bloody television!! What exactly was he doing to help you and his sick child at that point?

YANBU.

Saladeeta · 29/10/2015 20:01

I honestly thought he would as he said he would- its a constant surprise to me that he doesn't do this sort of thing - I feel if I anticipate that he won't do it and do it for him then I'm enabling something pretty dysfunctional. Which it clearly is anyway Sad

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AutumnLeavesArePretty · 29/10/2015 20:03

I'd have just ordered them on Amazon that night or thrown some in the trolley the next supermarket shop. Trivial item that whoever is closest to the laptop or going to the shop picks up.

HopefulHamster · 29/10/2015 20:04

Removing them from a thermometer is just unacceptable. It's beyond mere selfishness/laziness.

Saladeeta · 29/10/2015 20:06

Exactly autumn... I could have done it. But I had removed from my mental 'to do' list as I thought it had been delegated.

Hopeful- I'm not really so bothered about that but it was the catalyst for the argument.

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Lauren15 · 29/10/2015 20:07

So your dc has a temperature of 39 and he's sitting watching tv while you deal with it?? Sounds like a lovely guy.

Saladeeta · 29/10/2015 20:08

Yeah , he's a real find Confused

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AshleyWilkes · 29/10/2015 21:15

NU in the slightest.
Sorry but his child has a fever and instead of being supportive and helpful he throws a strop about the way you looked at him and the fact you "bullied" him and then just goes to bed?!
I'd be severely ticked off.

laffymeal · 29/10/2015 21:21

What an absolute arsehole he is.

waitingforcalpoltowork · 29/10/2015 21:44

he is being a twat about you daring to expect him to do what he said he would do

im assuming he has redeeming features?

does he have form for not doing as he says?

if you cant trust him on the little things how can you trust the big?

waitingforcalpoltowork · 29/10/2015 21:44

how is your ds now?

CactusAnnie · 29/10/2015 22:53

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RunRabbitRunRabbit · 29/10/2015 22:57

Why was he watching telly when a child was ill? Is he a twat?

AnnaMarlowe · 29/10/2015 22:58

I would not have allowed someone else to remove the batteries from the thermometer while my child had a temp of 39.6 degrees.

In those circumstances I would have given your DH considerably more to deal with than how I was 'looking at him' TBH.

Saladeeta · 29/10/2015 23:22

Thanks all. Ds temp down to 38.4. He is a wanker, quite a lot, about a lot of things. I am working out if it would be best to leave, I just can't seem to find the courage and things like this have become so normalised I have to remind myself I would be shocked if ds was a teenager and behaved like it.

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Saladeeta · 29/10/2015 23:24

I didn't realise he had removed them btw

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Mmmmcake123 · 29/10/2015 23:31

It's not a petty argument Cake

AnnaMarlowe · 29/10/2015 23:33

Can you have a rational discussion in the morning when you are calmer about why this was unacceptable behaviour?

StrictlyMumDancing · 29/10/2015 23:33

Had my DH removed batteries from the thermometer whilst my DC were ill I would have been a nasty abusive fishwife-style nagging bullying arse. And after I'd calmed down I doubt I'd be all that apologetic.

If you were as calm as you've suggested you deserve a medal.

Saladeeta · 30/10/2015 12:55

I was that calm, except when he called me a mean bully- then I was like for fucks sakes have a look at yourself.

Just have to keep reminding myself this is not how rational adults behave...

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greenhill · 30/10/2015 13:19

That's not petty. Hope your DS feels better soon Flowers for you, it sounds like you are having a stressful time Sad

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