I work FT and have ds1, 4 and ds2, 2. Dh does the school/nursery run with boys except on a Wednesday- dh still takes ds1 to school but dm comes over to look after ds2. She often comes and stays over on the Tuesday night beforehand. You'd think with an extra adult the morning would run smoother but it's actually the other way round......dm is like 'oh it's ok, let ds1 come down in his pjs for breakfast and get changed later, oh just let him have the to on for 10 mins before he goes out...." Which is totally not what we do the other days and quite undermining but I thought I'd pick my battles and let it lie as I am v grateful that she helps us out. Anyway, I left before ds and dh this week as usual, and this morning when I saw dm she said 'now, don't be mad at me for saying this but, on weds am ds1 left for school in trousers that weren't ironed, and he looked like a scarecrow....please iron his school uniform".
Now dh got ds ready after I had left the house.....yet somehow it's my fault that his trousers weren't ironed? When I asked ds about it he said that it was chaos on weds morning and a mad rush to get out because of dm fussing. I feel like I'm making excuses for both of them by then really don't think it should all fall to me...Aibu?? What do I say to dm?