To distance myself from all my so called friends?

[Pineappledancing]

I am feeling more and more lately that so many friends just crap on me, no one is particularly bothered about me, and I am invited to things just to make up the numbers. I have also had a really bad, stressful time in the past 6 months and no one is bothered about it. I think I am someone that is just 'there'. No one ever remembers a thing about me or my life. I tell a friend something and then the next time I see them if I refer to it they can never remember.

I have just cancelled a night out tonight and said that I am unwell as every single meeting with that particular group of friends (5 of us in total) revolves around one friend and her constant moans and need for attention and sympathy and I'm sick of it.

I was thinking last night that I could actually fall out with about 90% of my friends at the moment, for being thoughtless or treating me in a disrespectful way.

Just sick of it all.

Do you have one or two close ones that you could focus on instead? I tend to find group friendships are fraught will all sorts of tensions. Don't isolate yourself entirely though if it'll make you feel worse. There's always opportunities to make new friends through new activities etc.

Do it! I did a few years ago, it's quite refreshing. I would say I now only have about 5 close friends but they are the ones who are always there if I need them and accept me for who I am BUT I also found by not having to spend time with people I didn't enjoy spending time with anymore that I now have more time and money for myself and my interests. I've made some lovely new friends just doing the things I want to do. I was bit lonely for a while but I'm much happier now and I don't get so upset because I don't feel I am taken for granted anymore!
For example I had a so called friend practically move in with me when her fiancé left her, as soon as she got a new man I got ditched and had to do all the chasing, haven't seen her now in about 5 years and don't miss her at all. I'm still angry I let her get away with it but that's more anger at myself.

I do have a couple of good friends but neither of them live nearby.

I always feel like I cannot get away with being selfish or putting myself first like so many others seem to do, I end up with people not talking to me if I don't do as others want.

I have only 2 close friends and they don't live nearby.
We have good girlie get togethers and it's great.
Focus on the good ones and phase out the others if they bring nothing to your life!