to feel a bit out of place and miffed

[cjt110]

I joined Slimming World the other night. I am a previous WW member but decided to give something else a go.

So a friend introduced me to the group leader who basically wafted a clipboard in my face, told me to sit in this kind of side room and complete the form and she would go through the plan "in a short while" I was left sat there like piffy on a rock for 15 mins with this other new member whilst the main group were getting weighed, getting drinks for themselves etc. She went through the plan briefly with us both and then said to come and join the main meeting. I went back to my friend who introduced me to the ladies she was sat with, one of which turned out to be a lecturer of mine from uni. She said how great it was to see me etc etc then with that kind of face "Why on earth are you even here, you dont need to lose any weight" I felt it was a bit of a.... not catty but that kind of comment.

So the meeting started and the whole HOUR after the 30 minute weigh in session was spent just going through who had lost what weight and how much they were going to lose the following week. When I had been at WW there would be a quick who's lost what then some kind of "class" about weight loss focused on how to avoid eating too many treats at christmas or whatever it may be. I then had to ask for my book and to be weighed at the end.

So - AIBU to have been feeling out of place? I know it's a different business etc but I felt quite abandoned at the start of the meeting and almost excluded. I then felt I got no form of benefit from the meeting other than who had lost what - no methods on how they had or any form of class.

Also AIBU to have felt a bit miffed at the comment made to me? I may appear to be "slim" but I have gained 19lbs since I had my son which when you are 5ft tall is a lot.

Please be kind!

I tried SW when I lost weight. I found it very cliquey tbh and the plan didn't work for me - I actually managed to put on weight! I got irritated and stopped going.

I'd had success with Slim Fas before so went back to that and lost the weight. Maybe you should go back o WW if that works for you?

Apologies for typos - have a broken wrist so am doing it one handed!

I also joined a SW group the other day and I wish the new member stuff had been done in a side room - the noise in the main room was awful and made it hard to hear everything.

The group also seemed quite cliquey, I think anything like this has an element of it as people go for a long time and get to know each other. I won't be staying for the group as I will be popping out from work for the weigh-in so I don’t mind that part but in your position I would maybe try some other groups to see if they seem a better fit.

Are you seriously complaining that people who go to the same place every week and talk to each other acted like....people who go to the same place every week and talk to each other?
You felt like a newbie. Because you were new! It's not cliquey when people chat to those they know and not to those they don't know.

I joined SW after a few times at ww and I felt like a change. I had a similar experience, except the leader came over initially and told me about the plan. But the meetings! My god! So long winded and tedious while they went round every person in the room and analysed. It took two hours! At the ww meetings they ask people who are pleased or not pleased to put their hands up and there are a couple of chats, then there is a 20min discussion. That's about enough. There are times when I want to lick my wounds and think, not have a public discussion about it! I ended up swiftly going back to ww, it suits me better. Not saying SW doesn't work, it does, but we suits me better.