People who lack self-awareness

[LaChicaRubia]

Fell out of touch with someone who used to be a very close friend. We used to be in contact most days, then I just stopped messaging and they did not ever message me, fine (long build-up of issues: mainly they were quick to tell me if they thought I wasn't living up to their "friendship demands" but not able to see the problem if they were rude to me, which did happen, pretty frequently). Fwiw when I confronted them about being unkind, their excuse was that everyone did it but they were sorry and then when I responded that I tried not to treat people like that, they huffily apologised for "not being as perfect as me"

So. I later decided to see if we could bring about a "thaw" in relations for sake of wider group. It's always good when we're all together, it's only me this person behaves strangely with (we were closer which may explain it).

"Friend" then told me how I had hurt them by "not being there for them enough" (not trye!) and was very me-me-me about it all. They seemed shocked when I said that id been finding their behaviour hard to deal with and says how they hoped we could get back what we had...

Anyway a few weeks later, I haven't contacted them and they haven't contacted me.

This is fine obviously for the reasons I outlined but wtf?! Why launch at someone telling them all their faults then in the same breath announce you hope to still be "best friends", then not instigate a conversation?! I know it takes two but what were they actually hooing for? Me to message admitting all responsibility for being a "shitty friend" and begging forgiveness??

Sorry. This was meant to be a generic rant re similar personalities! But yes, whilst I think they abu, wtf is going on? WHO ARE THESE PEOPLE

Thanks Katie

Yes v true. I kind of don't like them though They were really awful to me and I just don't feel happy really to have them back in my life right now.

But thanks

Then sounds like you need to (and want to) move on.

By the sound of it you both have had a misinterpretation of what you expect via text.
If you don't like her and never want to have contact again then witwoo
If you would prefer to maintain contact and just haven't got a clue why it had all go so wrong, ring or text a pleasant msg suggesting you meet. Make it clear you don't know why things have gone awry. Good luck

Thank you.

It's a really strange one, we used to have a good relationship (she can be good fun etc etc), then as we got closer she started treated me like her whipping boy when she was moody basically

I miss what we had but for a good couple of years (her mood became worse the closer we became as friends) she has on/off treated me badly withoit much of an apology.

So for me recent events were the final straw.

The last time we met up, she launched into me while I held back as I knew whatever I said would only add fuel to the fire..

Would you lot message if you were in my position? I just don't know...