I'd like to see whether ppl think I'm being U...
Our kids (3 and 6mo) have 3 sets of gp - dm, mil & sfil, fil & smil. Dm and mil (and spouses) have both looked after them overnight in the past and we trust them implicitly. However, fil & smil haven't - they visit us and look after them for a few hours but have never had them overnight.
The main reason for this is that they drink a lot. Not in the daytime but every evening they drink, and not just a couple of glasses of wine - they get properly smashed. In nearly 7 years ive known them, I've never seen them skip booze for a night. I'd be worried about the kids being ill or needing them in the night and they wouldn't be sober enough to deal with them. There are other reasons also, such as not giving the kids breakfast until 9am (when they wake at 6.30 and being this young, I think that's unacceptable), not changing nappies promptly that have been worn for 12 hours o/n etc. Stuff that we've repeatedly told them about but they don't listen.
The issue is that they keep talking about wanting to take them o/n, and we have a wedding in Jan where we'll be away 2 nights. Fil and smil have nominated themselves to be the babysitters, to the point where they've arranged their holiday around it, without checking with us first!
I think dh needs to tell them candidly that we don't want them to babysit and why not, but while he also thinks they're not 100% reliable, he wants to give them the benefit of the doubt (mainly he doesn't want to upset them), tell them not to drink while they're in charge and leave an idiots guide such as 'change nappy in morning'...
I'm gonna be worried the whole 2 days but he thinks I'm overreacting...am I?