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AIBU?

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To be really cross and say no my parents only

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Dollymixtureyumyum · 21/10/2015 06:56

I have booked Ds in to go and see santa (early i know but needed in order to get in) we invited my parents and inlaws along and they said yes.
My inlaws announce yesterday that they have booked to go and see santa with DS the week after we are all due to go but it's ok it's there say to have him anyway do they dictate what they do with him!!! Which yes I would normal agree with them but FFS. Both my and DH work and can get out.
I know i would prob be unreasonable to tell them they cany take him to see Santa but would I be wrong to say well its just my parents now when we go and see santa the week before.

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SweetTeaVodka · 21/10/2015 07:26

I'm guessing there must be some backstory here, because I really can't see the problem.

(Also think it's a bit OTT to have both parents and 4 grandparents crowding around when you take him to see Santa, but I understand people get silly over "baby's first" anything).

SweetTeaVodka · 21/10/2015 07:29

Oops, I see there was a massive cross post while my phone was taking an age to submit my response, sorry.

Well done on graciously accepting YABU, OP (we've all been U at times).

HeteronormativeHaybales · 21/10/2015 07:46

Non-issue. He's two! He won't remember or, likely, understand.

Grapejuicerocks · 21/10/2015 09:25

definitely remind them to
"take the buggy, given what happened last year" - delivered with a big smile to mask the annoyance you justifiably feel after last year.

beefthief · 22/10/2015 12:57

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BarbarianMum · 22/10/2015 13:01

That was somewhat very unnecessary Beefthief

ElsaAintAsColdAsMe · 22/10/2015 13:02

The op has said she is unreasonable, is there really any need to be calling her thick just to stick the boot in further?

SalemSaberhagen · 22/10/2015 13:10

Did that make you feel good beef?

SalemSaberhagen · 22/10/2015 13:11

And yes, I have reported.

SisterMoonshine · 22/10/2015 13:33

It looks like your worried for your DS having to fit around your SiL for the day and your PIL's not sticking up for what he might need throughout the day so as not to upset SIL's agenda, is that right?

Unreasonablebetty · 22/10/2015 13:40

It sounds like SIL is a bit of a cow, but don't punish your inlaws for it. Chances are, when it's them looking after your DS they'll become more aware of his unhappiness at the situation and will therefore change the situation with SIL

jorahmormont · 22/10/2015 13:46

MNHQ, can we have some kind of warning like the 'zombie thread' warning, which triggers after an OP graciously admits that she IBU, so before anyone posts it will say "RTFT, the OP has admitted that she is being unreasonable so if you've come along to stick the boot in, fuck off!" ? Pretty please?

PurpleHairAndPearls · 22/10/2015 13:56

Oh jorah I've mentioned this too, or suggested the thread is locked after so many posts. Still at least it allows us to update our spreadsheets with "Posters who don't RTFT and just want to be a twat".

Op, trust me you will look back on this in years to come and kick yourself . At least it's a nice classic PFB moment. We all have one

anotherbloomingusername · 22/10/2015 14:09

Actually, I would think it was weird for the ILs to want to take him again, given that they were already going to have the chance to see him visit FC the week before. Surely it's not going to be so impressive the second time.

But given the OPs second post, it sounds like the second visit to Santa isn't really for her son's benefit, but something planned with the SIL? It probably won't do any harm, but if SIL has form for wanting her own way and ignoring the needs of little one, then I'd be sceptical about letting him go, personally.

I'd probably come down with a strategic illness (or DS would) and I'd have him go elsewhere for the day.

MistressMerryWeather · 22/10/2015 14:57

To be fair the the grandparents, one occasion last year doesn't mean he won't be looked after.

Have they spent time with him/baby sat since? I'm willing to bet yes and I'm sure he has been fine.

It would be really childish to fake an illness, what's wrong with just talking to them?

LeaveMyWingsBehindMe · 22/10/2015 15:02

Good grief what a lot of fuss about nothing.

Let them take him. Be thankful you haven't got anything worse than this to worry about.

ReginaBlitz · 22/10/2015 15:48

Ridiculous grow up.

CatMilkMan · 22/10/2015 15:50

"Add message | Report | Message poster Dollymixtureyumyum Wed 21-Oct-15 07:24:53
Can I duck out of this thread now after being suitably told off with a promise I know I am being unreasonable.
Thankyou for your input smile"

RUN FOR THE HILLS
Many people will be still reading and replying to your original post and haven't seen that you have admitted to being unreasonable. I would abandon thread before people start arguing amongst themselves.
Hope your DS has a great time seeing Santa twice!

RandomMess · 22/10/2015 15:56

Just in case you read your thread:

At least this time if they pander to SIL they will have to deal with a tired, grumpy DS and any other consequences

Justmyluck1 · 22/10/2015 16:02

Ah well done op and bet he will have a super time.

MistressMerryWeather · 22/10/2015 16:12

My response was to anotherbloomingusername.

I accept that OP has acknowledged her unreasonableness and is currently saying 12 hail Marys and an our father as penance. :o

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