To be hurt by this?

[SomeDizzyWhore18O4]

My best friend of 26 years is getting married next year. Last week she sent me an email with details about her hen do, which said 'me and the bridesmaids are having a meeting about it next week'. Turns out that her five bridesmaids are all very glamorous newish friends she knows through her work. I know it's her wedding and it's up to her but I can't help but feel hurt. There are other issues around the wedding too - not least that she hasn't invited DH or DD (her goddaughter, who's 18). It's a massive wedding but most of the guests seem to be from her field of work (she works in TV). AIBU to feel a bit sad that she didn't ask me to be a bridesmaid despite growing up together, going through divorces, illness, flat sharing, uni etc together? Or should I stop being such a moany cow?

I think you have a right to be hurt and disappointed, but you must also recognise that life is not static, friendships are not static, most of us move through phases and just because we keep in touch doesn't mean we don't to some extent grow apart. She perhaps spends a lot more time with these women now than she does with you in recent years, also if she works in TV perhaps she has just become a bit shallow and obsessed with appearances and status, and wants her wedding to be like some glamorous photo shoot for HELLO.

I have known people whose weddings have been more like business networking opportunities/corporate events than a day spent with genuine friends and family. It wouldn't be for me, but it's just the way some people are.

Don't let it get to you. I bet when the chips are down it's you she'll need in her life - people always revert to type and retreat to where they feel most comfortable when it matters.

Hun don't sweat it, friendships are very fluid, she's just picking the people she's close to ATM. It does feel harsh to be told your not in someone's top 5 friendship circle but hey ho yoully live.