Because DH won't lift a bloody finger, and not only that but he makes mess worse. He won't put wrappers in the bin. If I clear a surface or tidy a cupboard he messes it up within hours. He won't do homework with the DCs. DCs (10 and 7) are copying his example.
Everything is left to me; housework, laundry, food shopping, cooking, organising things for the kids, all paperwork, everything school-related. He wont' even put his pile of laundry away in the wardrobe, and instead just leaves it laying around on the floor until it's all crumpled and filthy again. We have just been on holiday and he just left everything to me when we got back to sort out, and hasn't even so much as put one item in the washing machine or away. He also insisted on getting two dogs a few years ago and never does anything to take care of them.
I work full time. I also run a small part time business. I take care of my elderly grandmother too as much as I can.
I have just had enough. I feel as though I am wading through treacle as no matter what I do the house is a mess. There literally are not enough hours in the day.
I have been back at full time work since the day after we got home from holiday, the house is a total shit tip. He has created so much mess this weekend it will take me hours to tidy it tonight.
I have tried striking. I have tried talking to him. I have tried arguing, crying, threatening to leave, doing a rota, asking him to do jobs. Nothing works.