For the past year and a half DP has been out of work due to his own fault of not renewing his registration (illegal to work without it) he kept telling me it was being sorted and that it was being chased up... I found out a year later that he hadn't even bothered to renew it to start with. I called him out on it and told him to get it sorted and to find another job as we couldn't survive on my wages alone..fast forward another six months and he still hasn't sorted it out and seems to think that working four hours or less a week is acceptable. Because of this it is causing issues not only financially but because I'm working stupid unsociable hours and funding everything as well as never seeing the dc's yet he doesn't seem to see the problem with this. I no longer find him attractive and feel like I'm being used as a meal ticket whilst he sits about the house all day does the odd straighten up of things then has the cheek to complain if I so much as put a dish in the sink because he's done nothing all day but tidy up after me and the dc's even tho there at school and I'm at work or sleeping for work Wibu to tell him that if he doesn't get himself sorted then there will no longer be a relationship I dnt want to throw it away and have the kids hating me for breaking up the family but I don't know how much longer I can carry on like this